- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
Your ring is an expression of the love and committment the two of you have together. We have been married 32 years this week (it really feels like yesterday), and my ring is a .75 on my 6.0 finger. It is what we could afford at the time and I remember enjoying the comments when we were first engaged but over time I didn’t notice whether someone commented or not, although I would secretly admire it on my hand. Our life has been very full and blessed. Several comments from strangers recently have said that my ring is “dated”, which is how I found these boards in the first place. I am considering an upgrade but am torn with keeping my “dated” ring that stands for our many years together. I hope that in time you will be so wrapped up in building your ilves together that your ring will symbolize that bond for you as well.
@rosie.jonesy.9: Mine never really gets noticed, but I like it that way. I specifically wanted a ring that I could literally wear with anything, not one I felt was only for special occassions. I’m also not the type of person to get noticed so it fits me in that way.
I comment on any e-ring (or jewelry in general really!) that I notice and like. I am more observant of e-rings because I’m in the waiting stage! Esp if it sparkles I’ll just say “your ring is beautiful!” I’ve complemented 18 year old girls and 70 year old women and anywhere in between, I just figure anyone likes to hear that someone else thinks their (whatever) is pretty.
I don’t have a ring yet but I do notice people’s rings a lot. I commented on a stranger’s ring once (it was unusual in that it was a ruby) and the girl almost started crying and told me her whole story on how she wanted a diamond but her fiance picked out that ring for her. I felt so bad! Now I just keep my comments to myself!
@rosie.jonesy.9: I’ve only gotten a handful of comments on my ring – mostly from complete strangers (e.g. checkout clerks). don’t feel bad! I don’t think too many people notice others’ rings in general. also, some might not want to comment to not be awkward.
When I was “waiting” and kind of ring browsing, I used to compliment women’s rings alll the time. Before that, I never even noticed them, but once I did I saw so many beautiful ones and I wanted to recognize that. Now that I’m engaged, I still notice beautiful rings but I don’t compliment them anymore because I don’t want it to seem like I’m fishing for compliments on my own ring. I also don’t want to seem insincere because mine is usually larger.
I’ve only been engaged 3 weeks but unless someone’s finding out about my engagement for the first time-ring hardly gets any notice lol. But I don’t really use my hands when I talk or gesture a lot. I’ve gotten a few compliments from servers/cashiers…where my hands are kind of on display during our interaction.
I look at other people’s rings all the time but I don’t comment on them unless the style is particularly unusual or the stone is really big.
I receive random compliments all the time. Grocery store, commuting to work, people at work, hell I’ve even had women at parties compliment me on my ring. Each time I am surprised and I humbly say thank you. I dont think my ring is that “out there” but it is quite lovely and really sparkles.
As for complimenting other women, whether it be their jewels or clothing, I do it all the time. There’s nothing like another woman pointing out how flawless you look. Of course most want a man to appreciate the way they look but another woman can usually appreciate HOW WELL the look was put together.
I was at a traffic light with my fiancee and this woman was standing there with a SICK flowly colorful dress and this amazingly fitted moto leather jacket and her heels and hair? TO.DIE.FOR so my silly ass hopped out of the car, called out to her and said “Hunny, you look amaaaaaaaaaaaazing! WERK!” She blushed and smiled so hard and said thank you. Seeing her smile made me smile.
Nothing like passing along a compliment and a smile to brighten up someone’s day!
This thread is a reminder to me how much compliments from other women lift our spirits. It is sometimes awkward to compliment a stranger but I am going to be more mindful of commenting women throughout my day when I find something lovely. We all can lift each other up every day with a simple kind word.
I love jewelry and I will say something if I like someones ring. Usually big ones get my attention. People usually say nothing whatsoevery about mine. I think people for the most part really don’t care – which is fine. At the beginning I thought everyone would be making comments – but – its just not like that.
The only time i’ve commented on a ring was when my boyfriend’s sister in law to be shoved hers in my face.
Basically, no one is looking at your hands that much. I can tell you which of my colleagues is married, but only because they’ve mentioned their husbands. I have no idea if any of them wear a ring, I certainly couldn’t tell you what it looked like.
Heck, I pointed out a ring in a shop and commented to my mother that it was just like her engagement ring. It was nothing alike, not even the stone was the same. People just aren’t observant/don’t care.
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