(Closed) E-Ring fight with boyfriend

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
Post # 106
Member
224 posts
Helper bee

I’m very curious. How old are you & your boyfriend? Also, what do you mean by saying that he’s getting you the “opposite” of what you want? I’m having a very difficult time understanding what “opposite” means in this case.

However, since your boyfriend has shown you what he might consider, you may need to reconsider the budget for this purchase and what he feels comfortable with, since your comfort level for his spending on a gift to you is different from what his comfort level is for his spending on a gift to you. If you are quite certain it is the size that you’re emphasizing on, then you may have to let go of the other specs that you’ve listed.

Post # 107
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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lycheehoney:  I think everyone jumped down your throat because you didn’t mention until later that he asked you first, you didn’t chime in with an opinion. Seems like they keep missing where you said HE ASKED YOU. Ugh. 

He shouldn’t have asked if he was going to ignore the answer. That being said, dudes lose their minds over rings. Not all dudes, but they can. It’s like they stop thinking straight. It’s a lot of pressure. Don’t talk to him about it for a day or two, let things calm down. And then just calmly say that you are only hurt because he asked you but then disregarded your feelings when you answered. Explain to him it’s about the PROCESS and not the ring. He *should* understand that after he has some time to cool down. 

But as another poster mentioned, I too am somewhat concerned he may have already purchased the ring from the branded store and that’s why he is so upset 

 

Post # 108
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Helper bee

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Post # 109
Bee
11803 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

I’m closing this thread for review.

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