(Closed) E-ring Insanity

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(Closed) E-ring Insanity?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Have him look into moissanite or asha.  It will give you the look of a diamond (that he wants) with a much better price tag (that you want)

 

edit –

oh, I see you’ve looked into moissanite – here is an asha site.  I have an asha and love it.

http://www.ashadiamonds.com

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What about skipping a ‘typical’ e-ring and pick up a pretty but understated anniversary band.

It can be as outrageous or simple as you like. 

They are cheaper, less attention getting, and perhaps will make you feel better about the situation.

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

if you feel uncomfortable having an engagement ring, he should understand that i hope 🙂 perhaps you can ask him to donate that money to the non-for-profit organisation you work for, as a different kind of engagement gift to you, and just have a plain wedding band 🙂 would that be an option?

Post # 7
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Busy bee

For you I don’t think moissanite it CZ is a viable option. It appears that much of your discomfort comes from being adorned with shiny objects so the make up of said object is irrrelvent. Im pretty sure if your boyfriend wants to prove something going for an alternative clear stone might not go over well.That being said.  It’s ok to allow a one time splurge within reason. You said you never really got into rings. Maybe you should into finding something that you like that’s unique with a modest budget so he can feel special purchasing something for you and you can somewhat control the budget. Or you can agree on a fancy wedding band and forgo the engagement ring. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

While you are the one who wears the ring, the ring he chooses to buy you is a reflection of his love. Right or wrong, many guys feel that your ring is a huge reflection on them. My grandmothers was married 48 years, widowed for 10, and still feels her rings are too gaudy. She would have prefer something simple, but my grandfathers wanted to be sure the world (my grandma was middle class and grandpa was dirt poor) knew he could provide. I would have been happy with an eternity band only, but I have a rock that is the price of a car. My fiance felt bad he didn’t spend the amount of a Lexus on it (I made it clear there was a maximum size is wear, otherwise it would go back) It was important to my Fiance that I have it, even though I’d be happy with just a wedding band.

My point is that this is important to him. Please don’t risk bruising his ego over a few months when he’ll be reminded of the ring every day when he sees it. He probably always imagined buying his wife a pretty diamond, and as long as you would wear the diamond, I would tread lightly and wait. If he knows you are open to alternatives or not having a ring, and he isn’t excited about those, it may be better long term not to push it.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

While you are the one who wears the ring, the ring he chooses to buy you is a reflection of his love. Right or wrong, many guys feel that your ring is a huge reflection on them. My grandmothers was married 48 years, widowed for 10, and still feels her rings are too gaudy. She would have prefer something simple, but my grandfathers wanted to be sure the world (my grandma was middle class and grandpa was dirt poor) knew he could provide. I would have been happy with an eternity band only, but I have a rock that is the price of a car. My fiance felt bad he didn’t spend the amount of a Lexus on it (I made it clear there was a maximum size is wear, otherwise it would go back) It was important to my Fiance that I have it, even though I’d be happy with just a wedding band.

My point is that this is important to him. Please don’t risk bruising his ego over a few months when he’ll be reminded of the ring every day when he sees it. He probably always imagined buying his wife a pretty diamond, and as long as you would wear the diamond, I would tread lightly and wait. If he knows you are open to alternatives or not having a ring, and he isn’t excited about those, it may be better long term not to push it.

Post # 11
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886 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

In my culture, both members of the couple wear their wedding bands as engagement rings. The only thing is, they wear the wedding bands on their right hands as the symbol of engagement. Then, on the wedding day, it’s switched to the left hand. Since I presume you’re both going to get wedding bands at some point, would this be an alternative to a fancy e-ring?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m glad you came to a compromise you both are happy with :). I think you’ll be thrilled with the ring! A word of advice before you order: you may want to look at a few rings in person just to get a feeling for what size (mm) Asha you would feel comfortable wearing. I know you don’t want anything too big or flashy.

Please post pics when you get the ring! (If you feel comfortable doing so..) 🙂

Post # 14
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3847 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

 

What about something like this.  It is simple yet somewhat substantial and totally beautiful.  It is $599.00 which is $99 over what you could justify to yourself, but I thought it might be the right mix to get both of you the most of what you want.  What do you think?

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Oh, I see that you came to a conclusion.  oops.  Congrats on your upcoming engagement.