Post # 1
Mt fiancé originally bought me a 3 carat cluster diamond engagement ring, but we had to return it because we dealt with bad customer service and wheN we got ring back from resizing it the
center diamond was cracked. A diamond cluster fell out and my fiancé was livid! He stormed to the store and returned it with me soooo upset and sad!! Next day he got me a more simpler carat diamond ring (1/2 carat center and 1/2 carat on side) Its a very traditional ring and almost a perfect rdiamond but…. It’s not my style and and he senses I’m not happy about it, but do I tell him? Do I make him buy a new one? Or do I suck it up because my fiancé is so proud of the ring he chose? I can’t see me wearing it for the rest of my life. 🙁
Post # 3
that’s a toughie. did you have anything to do with choosing out the 2nd ring? if so, you need to just suck it up. if he picked it all by himself, better to tell him NOW than in 20 years
Post # 4
@purpleginger: I was there and you should have seen the look on his face how his eyes lit up and said this ring is you!! I was shocked and said its a beautiful ring but I want the bling factor ( the cluster look) so the jeweler bought out a cluster ring and I smiled from ear to ear but he was adament that the cluster ring looks like a cocktail ring not an engagement ring. He gave me the choice and I chickened out because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings now I’m sure he’ll refuse to get me anything else If I speak up
Post # 5
@MrsNunez2B: oh thats difficult, but I would say something to him as you will have that ring for the rest of your life. When Fiance & I picked the ring I sort of wanted to leave it up to him but didnt want a surprise, he pointed out two both very nice, one I really wanted. I tried them both on & he said he liked the other one the best, & I said i loved them both but I really love other one the best so that is what he chose. At the end of the day he wants you to be happy with it, its a womans perogative to change her mind isnt it?
Post # 6
Sorry everything went wrong with the first ring. I can’t tell you what to do, but I know that if it were me, I’d stick with the new one and wear it proudly. I honestly feel like the message behind a ring means much more than the appearance. And, to be honest, I don’t know whether all guys get that “wow, this is the one I want for her!” moment. I’d be happy knowing he had that moment when choosing the ring. 🙂
Post # 7
Oh I’m so sorry for you! : (
I know the feeling of wearing a ring you don’t feel like is really you and it’s just horrible because you had other expectations of what it would feel like…
We got matching wedding bands and I honestly hated the look of mine on my finger. I mean I liked the whole idea of wearing matching bands but my wedding band was just too chunky for my thin fingers and didn’t really go with my engagement ring so I ended up wearing it on my right hand. But it was too small for that finger (apparently my right hand fingers are larger than on my left hand) and I had to get it resized. The jeweler I went to for resizing turned out to be awful and actually ruined the ring! It was a whole big mess, we ended up selling the gold and getting me a much more delicate wedding band that I think looks perfect with my ering.
I’m sorry for the long story, but my point I wanna make is that we have such good intentions but sometimes change our minds! I’m glad that I got to get another wedding band to wear, but it really sucks to have to wait for the ring to break or something to get what you want so I vote for the honesty route. : )