(Closed) E-ring/Diamond from Failed Marriage.. Yay or Nay?

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Ring/Diamond from Failed Marriage, Yay or Nay?
    YAY! : (78 votes)
    61 %
    Nay =( : (50 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    If it was YOUR ex’s ring, I’d be iffy, but considering it is your FMILs, I actually think it’s ok if you and your Fiance are ok with it. If it’s a big diamond (like 1ct+), it would totally be worth it to have it re-set.

    Post # 4
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I was offered both my FMIL’s diamond and my grandmother’s diamond from their rings…I never thought of it as bad luck, I just didn’t want a diamond.  I think it’s totally fine especially if money is an issue, it’s just a diamond, don’t let bad ju-ju hold you back.  I mean, if you get a free diamond does that mean you get an extra week on your honey moon? =D Bad luck my foot!

    Post # 5
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    It’s not bad luck. I would just have the diamond reset into a new ring. Then it’s all yours.

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t believe in luck or superstition. In fact, I kind of *like* doing things to deliberately taunt what others consider “bad luck.”

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Very few newly mined diamonds are truly “conflict free”.  Unless you happened to kick over the stone from which you diamond was cut in your back yard, you’re being selective about which superstitious stuff will bug you anyway.  It’s a stone that was around for many millions of years before she got it and will remain for as many after we’re gone.  The human history of it is in our heads as much as the stone.  If you love the look of it, I’d say forget about the ex, and minimize the impact of having a diamond.  Or, you could ask her if she’d mind you trading it for another rock and still come out even.

    Post # 9
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    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Maybe trade it in when you buy your engagement ring? 

    My FI’s mother also offered us her engagement ring.  Yes, it’s the ring from the marriage that produced my Fiance but her ex-husband abused her, and she left when he started in on the kids.  It was not bad luck so much as I didn’t want to associate my ring/relationship in any way with that one.  Luckily Fiance agreed with me, although I different reasons he never quite explained.  (I think he didn’t want to take it from her, felt she had supported him already in many ways financially.)  I would have been ok trading it in for a ring, but my Fiance didn’t want to, so we didn’t.  How does your bf feel about this?

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Melini: here, here!!

    Post # 11
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    For me, if it was reset and made into my ring, I dont think I’d give it a second though about its history and MILs ex-husband.  Esp if its a nice rock and could save a bundle… sure why not.

    Post # 12
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    5572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it’d be totally fine and I’d also be excited that she wants you in the family 🙂 Like the other bees have said, I’d just have it reset!

    Post # 13
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    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    It personally wouldn’t bother me.  The stone is not cursed and deserves a happy ending!

    Post # 14
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    It’s a stone. There is no such thing in bad luck. 🙂

    Post # 15
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    When you buy an antique or used ring, who knows what the story is behind it 🙂 Don’t let the little personal insight you have ruin a lovely blessing such as a family ring!

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I like the idea of her wanting something good to come out of what happened to her marriage. It’s like a silver lining, you two can have a nice ring and save money to start your life together. It beats the ring sitting in her jewelry box, give the ring a second chance!

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