(Closed) E-Shoot on Friday and a fight with FI has me super stressed out!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
206 posts
Helper bee

I don’t know how the conversation played out, but Real Life  should come first and you shouldn’t feel penalized for getting your hair done. You will make part of the game and everything will work out. On the other hand, his feelings about the matter seem valid even if they are badly expressed.

It sounds like as of Sunday, when your Fi made the plans, you could still make the Wednesday night game. You didn’t really even know by Monday since your stylist was being iffy. Add that to the fact that for a casual, once a month game, missing a large chunk is a big deal, especially if there are only 4 of you -that’s tiny. So his disappointment (even frustration) is reasonable.

As for why this week, I assume he uses the D&D game as stress relief, so if your lives have been busy, that may be why he wanted to do it now.



Post # 5
1462 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am so sorry you are feeling stressed. I truly understand how you feel because having body image issues are hard to overcome and when you have to take pictures it is something you have to prepare yourself for.

Your Fiance doesnt understand the reason why you waited wasnt because you were lazy you had to make yourself stronger to except how you will look in the pictures. Your Fiance is hurt because you wont be there and he is unable to express that to you because of his pain.

Sometimes men can be consumed with what they want they dont always see it what you need. I personally think you should sit him down and express the body image issues you are having and you need him to be more supportive and understanding because it is something you are struggling with.

I think when you do that he will understand and be more supportive. I just had a conversation about this same subject this morning when he called. I am personally tired of the constant delays of him not coming home. I expressed my feelings and he glossed over them and said that I am being negative and he doesnt like when I am negative.

I said that these are my feelings and I have every right to express them that got his attention and he apologized and said I am sorry I know it is hard.



Post # 7
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MrsVandykins: cute haircut! have a blast tomorrow and put the fight past you.

Post # 8
206 posts
Helper bee

Love the haircut!

Post # 9
522 posts
Busy bee

Um, not sure why you have a lifelong phobia of having your picture taken since you are incredily gorgeous and photogenic!

Have an amazing time getting your pictures taken and clearly the universe wanted you to get that haircut!

Post # 10
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