Post # 1
Fiance and I were discussing ways to save money on things we didn’t find important, and one thing we both agreed on were save-the-dates and wedding invitations. Over the years, we realized that we often threw away both, and though we kept the “nicer” ones on the fridge for a little longer, they eventually ended up in the trash as well. Rather than spend over $500 on postage and stationary, we thought we would just send everyone email reminders/invitations, and then put that money we saved into food/alcohol.
I brought this up to some girlfriends, and a large portion of them responded with horror. They stated that it would “cheapen” our wedding, and guests would feel offended that we didn’t have the decency to send them an actual paper invite.
Thoughts, Bees? Should we just suck it up and do the paper invites and save-the-dates?
Post # 2
You know what, I love e-vites. We didn’t do it for ours, but after we ordered our invites I came across https://www.paperlesspost.com/ and friggin’ loved it. If I could go back in time, I would totally just do e-vites!
That being said, I’m sure some people would be horrified… but I don’t care!
Post # 3
Even though paper invitations cost money, I still like them. A wedding is more than just an everyday event, so it should have a nicer invitation than usual. You can still have an economical paper invitation if you design it right. It is fun and special to receive a non-bill in the mail.
With e-vites, you run the risk of it being classified as spam or it being noncompatible with your guests’ computer system. If you have guests who aren’t computer savvy, they may not be able to receive an e-vite too.
If you want to cut costs, you can include the option of online RSVPs.
Post # 4
You don’t even have to do save the dates. I am a big believer in actual invites though. I’m the type of person who doesn’t often pay attention to emails so as a guest I need that pysical reminder of seeing the invite. That said, there are tons of cheap invites! DH and I got our invites for less than a dollar a piece because we shopped around, waited for a sale, and didnt go with our first choice because they were $5 each.
Post # 5
Honestly I think this is a horrible idea. I would rather get an invitation in the mail so I can see it and be reminded of the wedding date. You can send save the day online. Just please don’t do that for the invitation. You will prob get lots of no shows and have a harder time tracking down rsvp this way.
Post # 6
We used paperless post for our save-the-dates and invitations, and I regret nothing!
Why use paper when you don’t have to?
I swear we did the same amount of tracking people down to see if they got their invitations as people who do paper, and the nice thing is that it tells you if people opened it or not.
I was skeptical but DH really wanted to be modern and Eco-friendly. We did have 20 printed out for keepsakes and technologically challenged guests, and they were lovely.
ETA: and we had a fancy wedding with a reception at a hotel and 100 guests.
Post # 7
i love paper invitations. i think they are classier and will be taken more seriously. email the stds? sure. but please snail mail the invitations. emails can get lost or misplaced (wrong folder), and i’m less likely to pay attention to an email than a letter.
Post # 8
I think it’s actually pretty tacky. I sent out evites for our annual BBQ, but a wedding is not an annual event. We printed our save the dates on Vista Print $25 for 100. You can buy invitations at Michaels, Walmart, Party City for $25 and print them at home. I really don’t feel like there’s any excuse to skip the invites unless you’re having a super super small wedding. You can skip save the dates all you want, but please…. Don’t skip the invites. It’s just proper etiquette and a courtesy to your guests whom you’ll be hosting.
Post # 9
We did emailed save the dates, with a link to our wedding website.
Then we mailed invitations. I wouldn’t do it any differently if I had to choose again.
Post # 10
It depends on your guests, if they’re more internet savvy then e-vites make sense. I personally prefer e-vites b/c I can book it to my calendar and I can get reminders.
Post # 11
If it was up to me, I would have sent out evites For sure. My Fiance was horrified at this idea (lol) and so he did all the designing and ordering if all things stationary for our wedding. While the invites are beautiful, they were definitely not cheap.
I would not be offended by a wedding evite but apparently some people would be. 😛
Post # 12
I had this conversation with my SIL this weekend. Personally I don’t get why people get their panties in a bunch over e-vite wedding invitations. I think it’s a great way to save money and they are very convenient. I think it’s awesome that people can have an electronic record of their guest count and other related information. Plus the guests can’t “lose” an evite. It’s always in their inbox and easy to reference. The whole purpose of a wedding invitation is to give guests pertinent information regarding the wedding and allow them to RSVP, which in 2015 can be done for FREE. That’s kind of awesome if you think about it. All of this wedding invitation etiquette was created before computers and email even existed. I’m sending paper invitations because I like to craft and will be doing them myself. I don’t think its’s necessary to spend a lot of money on something that will eventually be thrown in the trash by most guests anyway. Having a free option is even better! I would never judge or even think twice about it if I received a wedding e-vite. I also don’t think that an e-vite cheapens a wedding. Some brides don’t have the time, or just don’t give a crap about sending paper e-vites. I think it’s a smart, modern, AND money savvy way to get the job done and I’m pretty sure it’ll become more common in the future.
Post # 13
We’re doing evites – it’s not even a cost thing, but we decided we wanted our whole wedding to be as environmentally friendly as possible from the get-go, as this is something that is super important to us so it made sense that our wedding would reflect these values as well.
We were able to do some really cool things with an evite that we couldn’t do with paper invites – we had little animated glowing fireflies dancing through a forest, and we got lots of compliments on it.
The other thing is – if someone was superficial enough to be offended that I sent them an evite instead of a piece of paper – I don’t want you at my wedding anyway because we probably have little in common.
It’s your wedding. Do what you think is best and what makes you happiest. You will be feeding and entertaining all these people – I’m sure they can live with an evite if that is your preference.
Post # 15
I think if you can avoid it you should for all the above mentioned reasons. I like seeing the invite on my fridge to remind me of information about the wedding and would find it annoying to have to look it up in my email every time I needed to check some info on it. I agree with you that invites always get thrown out and I never understood people spending so much on them. That being said you can do whatever you want! Sometimes I think it helps to say you are going the ecofriendly route. At the very least it will get judgy people off your back and prevent a good amount of drama for something dumb. I do agree with the person who said you can get them for cheap and there’s not really a reason to not just save money and call it a day spending $30 or whatever. Other ways to save money without ruffling feathers in this area is to not send out save the dates at all (no one will miss them), don’t put an RSVP mail insert (we are actually doing this, it will save postage and paper bc you have to stamp those too!- also we always hated having to send them back or forgot so we didn’t see why you couldn’t just call in an RSVP like you do for every other party invite!), hand out invites to whoever you can to save postage, and keep your invite to one page without multiple inserts about hotel and directions, (put a wedding website on the invite and have all that info there). If youre not picky about design (which I assume you aren’t since you dont even want to do physical invites anyway) you can get invitations printed for super cheap (I used smartpress.com) always use coupons! You can get invites from michaela on clearance and use 40/50%off coupons! print your own, and of course shop around!!