(Closed) Earlier and earlier??

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel like sites are advising brides to send out the invites earlier, maybe that has something to do with it? I think it’s overkill…. I was searching for invitation wording the other day, and one sight said 4-6! I had always heard 2-3.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wish I could send mine out early and avoid the headache of the waiting game (I get enough of that waiting on grad school letters)!  But we were told by our stationer to send them out 4-8 wks prior, with a RSVP date 2-3 weeks out.  I definitely opted for the 3 week RSVP!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Well we’re sending out an initial round of invites early (like June for our Sept wedding) but that’s going out to our across the country and Canadian invitees who we’re 90% sure won’t be coming.  Our 97% positive will come invitees will get theirs mid July.  We wanted to make sure we could invite our we really WANT to invite you guests in addition to our we HAVE to invite you guests.  Might not be the best etiquette-wise, but the early invites are to family that I’ve never even met – and who’s weddings I was never invited to.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah, it sounds like they’re doing an A/B list kind of thing. Congrats on making the A list, I guess! We’re sending all of ours out at once and hoping for the best!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Wow, SapphireSun, that is really early. I’m July 24 and I thought we would be pushing it by having an RSVP deadline in early June. I want to collect our RSVPs early, but I wouldn’t think it was normal to put them out months and months ahead of the wedding. I would think people might lose them.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

yeah im thinking a/b list… and if its an out of town wedding and they didnt do STD, maybe they are factoring in that time space so you can make arrangements if need be?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re sending ours out at the end of March for our June 25th wedding…but that’s because 80% of our guest list are Out of Town & most have to fly/drive over 500 miles to get to our wedding.  With that many people flying/driving in, we wanted to make it explicitly clear that our Friday wedding is in the early afternoon so people can plan accordingly (I think most people assume weddings, especially Friday ones, are in the evening & if we didn’t send out the official info, they may miss our wedding Surprised). 

But I LOVE the added bonuses:

  1. knowing the “no’s” early enough to send B list invites (although, with the response we got from our Save-The-Date Cards, there’s only room for about 6 B-listers)
  2. Confirmed numbers for our caterer & venue
  3. Setting up added bonuses for our guests (like personal greeting at the airport, Out of Town bags) with ample time (not last minute running around for my BMs & his GMs)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sending mid March, two months before the wedding!  I don’t want guests to forget about it. 

I agree with you about how firm the numbers will be four months before. Things come up. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Sending them out early may be a result of the economy. Giving guests more time to plan is always a plus, so they can get the best rates on airfare, hotels, etc.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Date twin!!

I wouldn’t worry.  We’re ordering our inivites this week, planning to send them out 20th ish of April or so, with an RSVP date of June 9th.  (We don’t need final headcount to the cater until June 20-something, but wanted a little bit of leeway to chase down the inevitable non-responders.)

eee! (sorry, excited. I’ve seen a bunch of July 10 dates, but you’re the first date twin I have!)

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I always thought invitations were supposed to go out between 6-8 weeks ahead of time….we are doing ours about 10 weeks ahead of time to give people time to make plane reservations and hotel reservations. Even though we sent out Save-The-Date Cards we still dont want people to miss out!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Im only sending mine early because its out of state, other then that I would send em out the normal 8 weeks before.

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