Post # 1
Is it just me, or are lots of people sending out wedding invitations very early this year?
Just this week I received an invitation for a wedding on June 26th, and July 3rd, with RSVP dates by the first week of March! I’m getting married July 9th, and was thinking I might send out my invites a little “early” toward the end of April… but now I’m thinking I might be behind the eight-ball??
Post # 3
I feel like sites are advising brides to send out the invites earlier, maybe that has something to do with it? I think it’s overkill…. I was searching for invitation wording the other day, and one sight said 4-6! I had always heard 2-3.
Post # 4
My first thought was maybe they’re B listing? So trying to send out to their first choices that they think may not make it extra early to know they can send out to others later, without being obvious?? The July 3rd is across the country (6 days before my own wedding) so I did RSVP no right away.
Post # 5
I wish I could send mine out early and avoid the headache of the waiting game (I get enough of that waiting on grad school letters)! But we were told by our stationer to send them out 4-8 wks prior, with a RSVP date 2-3 weeks out. I definitely opted for the 3 week RSVP!
Post # 6
Well we’re sending out an initial round of invites early (like June for our Sept wedding) but that’s going out to our across the country and Canadian invitees who we’re 90% sure won’t be coming. Our 97% positive will come invitees will get theirs mid July. We wanted to make sure we could invite our we really WANT to invite you guests in addition to our we HAVE to invite you guests. Might not be the best etiquette-wise, but the early invites are to family that I’ve never even met – and who’s weddings I was never invited to.
Post # 7
Yeah, it sounds like they’re doing an A/B list kind of thing. Congrats on making the A list, I guess! We’re sending all of ours out at once and hoping for the best!
Post # 8
Wow, SapphireSun, that is really early. I’m July 24 and I thought we would be pushing it by having an RSVP deadline in early June. I want to collect our RSVPs early, but I wouldn’t think it was normal to put them out months and months ahead of the wedding. I would think people might lose them.
Post # 9
yeah im thinking a/b list… and if its an out of town wedding and they didnt do STD, maybe they are factoring in that time space so you can make arrangements if need be?
Post # 10
We’re sending ours out at the end of March for our June 25th wedding…but that’s because 80% of our guest list are Out of Town & most have to fly/drive over 500 miles to get to our wedding. With that many people flying/driving in, we wanted to make it explicitly clear that our Friday wedding is in the early afternoon so people can plan accordingly (I think most people assume weddings, especially Friday ones, are in the evening & if we didn’t send out the official info, they may miss our wedding ).
But I LOVE the added bonuses:
- knowing the “no’s” early enough to send B list invites (although, with the response we got from our Save-The-Date Cards, there’s only room for about 6 B-listers)
- Confirmed numbers for our caterer & venue
- Setting up added bonuses for our guests (like personal greeting at the airport, Out of Town bags) with ample time (not last minute running around for my BMs & his GMs)
Post # 11
Don’t get me wrong, I totally can see the perks of having your firm numbers early, but with an RSVP deadline 4 months in advance, I’m not really sure how “firm” those numbers might be. I suppose this is a problem even a month in advance though…
Neither of the people I received invites from sent out a save the date, so that could be part of it.
The problem (as far as it affects me) is that my parents were invited to these weddings too, and I JUST finished convincing my mom that sending out the invites for MY wedding after Easter would be more than enough time.
They’ll go out 10 weeks in advance, which is early by a lot of standards, with a request to be back by the first of June, 5 weeks prior to the wedding, which should give me two weeks to chase down stragglers before I have to give “firm” numbers to my venue 3 weeks in advance.
Post # 12
I’m sending mid March, two months before the wedding! I don’t want guests to forget about it.
I agree with you about how firm the numbers will be four months before. Things come up.
Post # 13
Sending them out early may be a result of the economy. Giving guests more time to plan is always a plus, so they can get the best rates on airfare, hotels, etc.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t worry. We’re ordering our inivites this week, planning to send them out 20th ish of April or so, with an RSVP date of June 9th. (We don’t need final headcount to the cater until June 20-something, but wanted a little bit of leeway to chase down the inevitable non-responders.)
eee! (sorry, excited. I’ve seen a bunch of July 10 dates, but you’re the first date twin I have!)
Post # 15
I always thought invitations were supposed to go out between 6-8 weeks ahead of time….we are doing ours about 10 weeks ahead of time to give people time to make plane reservations and hotel reservations. Even though we sent out Save-The-Date Cards we still dont want people to miss out!
Post # 16
Im only sending mine early because its out of state, other then that I would send em out the normal 8 weeks before.