Post # 1
So… a couple of days ago I asked about whether or not my Darling Husband and I should get a dog, but that is now on hold since we are wondering if our lifestyle is going to be changing drastically and unexpectedly. My period is 3 days late, and I’ve always been extremely regular. I have no symptoms. I’m wondering if it’s worth it to go and get a test or not? Is it too early in your opinion? I’ve never taken a test before but my one friend took 3 that were negative and then got a positive one and now she has a 3 month old baby so clearly those first 3 were either faulty or it was too early or whatever. I see a FRER can give an answer for as early as two weeks, but are they reliable? Is it better to just go to the Dr? How many days late should I be late before it “counts”? Will my dr think I’m insane if I say I’m only 3/4 days late but think I’m pregnant? (Don’t some women’s cycles vary by like up to 5 days?) I’m confused and nervous! I’d love a definitive answer because of some work commitments starting THIS weekend. If I test and it’s negative, does it basically mean “not pregnant” or “too early to tell?” So I’ll only know for sure once I get my period or a positive test? That just seems cruel to make people wait for such crucial info!!! 😀
Post # 2
Just pick up a test – there’s no poinnt sitting around in agony over it. Also there is no point in going to your doctor over a period that is 3 days late; they would just tell you to take a home pregnancy test.
In terms of whether it’s “too soon” to test – that depends on when you ovulated, which, unless you were charting your cycle via temping or ovulation predictor kits, you have no way of knowing. Generally a FRER, and any other brand of pregnancy test, would be accurate two weeks after ovulation….sometimes sooner but not guaranteed.
If you test today and it’s negative, it either means you ovulated later than usual (hence the delay in your period) or you are pregnant but it’s too early for the test to pick it up. In that case, give it a few days and test again if your period still doesn’t arrive. If the test is positive, then it is almost certainly an accurate result (false positives are extremely rare).
Good luck and I hope you get the result you want.
Post # 3
I got an obvious positive with a FRER 3 days BEFORE my expected period. Obviously everyone is different and like mentioned above, it all depends on when you ovulate, but if your cycles are typically very regular it’s definitely time to test.
Post # 4
Expected period is based on when you ovulated, not when you typically get a period, an app tells you, or what you’ve experienced with birth control. Unless you have some sort of evidence of when you ovulated, you could receive a false negative simply because you ovulated later than you thought you did and its too early to test. You can also be totally not pregnant at all, and just ovulated late. Basically, just go pee on a stick. If it doesn’t show up in another few days or a week, pee on another stick. Rinse repeat.
Post # 5
For all 3 of my pregnancies (2 ended in MC, 1 in my toddler) I got a positive test multiple days before my expected period. As another poster said, your period is coming later than you expected for 1 of two reasons – you’re pregnant, or you ovulated late. The only way to know is to take a test. If it’s negative and your period still doesn’t come, take another in a few days.
Post # 6
Yep. Like others have said, unless you have some evidence that you ovulated on a certain day (because you were tracking via temping, etc. NOT using an app that uses the average ovulation date) there’s no way to be sure whether your period is actually “late” at this point. I’d say take a test but know that if it’s negative that’s not a definitive until you actually get your period.
Post # 7
Just pick up a test.
You definitely don’t need to go to the doctor.
Post # 8
Cool thanks so much bees, sounds like the best option is the HPT at this stage! I’ll do it asap. I guess I’m just hoping for a definitive answer either way before Saturday! Thanks for bees who shared how early they managed to get a positive, that’s super helpful and reassuring.
I have done temping and OPKs in the past and had very regular cycles (including ovulation dates that only ever moved 1 day) but I know every cycle is different and since I’m not temping right now, I guess it is very possible (even likely?) that my ovulation date moved and that’s what causing this delay.
We TTC’d last year but we discovered my husband had some fertility issues so since then we have been NTNP (on the understanding that it was extremely unlikely that we would get pregnant naturally/on our own.) We decided to pursue our options for fertility assistance at a later stage as we are both in our late 20s now and it just felt like a lot amd we weren’t ready at that point to make that call. All this to say that a positive pregnancy test (and healthy pregnancy) would be amazing even though the timing is not “ideal” for us, but it would be a miracle for us! (Sorry for the long background story but some bees were sounding a little bit judgmental or maybe I’m just a bit oversensitive right now lol.)
thanks for the responses!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME
leebee333 : Fingers crossed for you! Even though it’s not perfect timing, how wonderful it’d be to have been able to conceive without medical intervention!
Post # 10
I got a BFP on a FRER from mid-day urine at 9DPO, which was 7 days before my expected period.
I didn’t have any symptoms at that point other than that my feet swelled up a lot on a long flight. They’ve never swollen up from a flight before, so I tested. I’m 4 wks + 4 days now and still only symptoms are tender boobs, occassional cramping, and wanting to eat more frequently.
Post # 11
Good luck! Sorry if I sounded judgmental, just wanted to clarify! The fact that you are aware of OPKs/temping definitely would’ve informed my answer better (just seen WAY too many posts from women on Babycenter and here who go by the ovulation date their period tracker tells them). Unless there was anything stressful happening around your typical O date I’m thinking it probably wouldn’t have changed much? I know when I was temping I had a whole cycle I’m pretty sure I didn’t ovulate because of it being a busy/stressful time at work.
I got my BFP at 9 DPO if that’s any help- I ovulated on CD17 so I guess that was 2-3 days before my expected period? Good luck!
Post # 12
Thanks so much ladies!
bayoubee : thanks!!! I was trying tk think if anything like stress/change in routine or weight could have caused this but can’t think of anything! And you’re right – plenty of people rely too much on the data from a standard predictive tracker app without knowing it’s basically just a best guess so thanks for checking and sorry for being a bit oversensitive.
I didn’t want to get my H’s hopes up (he agonized over his fertility situation lst year!) So didn’t want to start testing too soon, plus I’m leaving on a remote work trip on saturday morning so won’t be able to let him know of we don’t know by then! But I’ll test first thing tomorrow morning and let you guys know.
Post # 13
leebee333 : I was in a really similar same boat as you- I always told him that my period was due a few days later than it typically was so he wouldn’t get his hopes up- and then I was away on a work trip when I actually got my BFP! (Conference known for a LOT of drinking in the evenings…) Does he know you’re late already or can you keep it a secret until you know for sure either way?
Post # 14
Hey bees, just to update, I took a test this morning andnit was negative, and I think I can feel AF approaching :-/ so I think it’s like Bayoubee said – I probably just ovulated later than normal for some reason.
thanks so much for the info and support ladies!