Early brunch wedding advice needed

posted 12 months ago in Reception
  • poll: BBQ Brunch or Regular Breakfast?



  • Post # 2
    564 posts
    Busy bee

    i love this idea!

    i would prefer breakfast foods.  i don’t think 11 is too late at all–lots of people enjoy breakfast foods until the early afternoon at a weekend brunch.  and as much as i enjoy bbq, it seems a bit messy for something as formal as a wedding.

    i’ve also been to several earlier/daytime weddings and we still danced!  if your group of friends likes to dance, i would still get a dj if you want one.  

    Post # 3
    8054 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think if youre doing bloody mary and mimosas you should stick with breakfast foods! I love bbq foods, but it doesnt fit as well with a brunch theme. 

    For dancing, I think it depends on your crowd. Ive been to a few daytime weddings and cant remember much dancing besides the first dance. 

    Post # 4
    5387 posts
    Bee Keeper

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    @valentinesbrunchbride:  Breakfast food definitely-french toast, waffles, pancakes, sausages, Omelette, bacon, fruit salads, etc.

    The BBQ is a bit off brunch time menu. I wouldn’t worry about the time. If you look at most restaurant menus for the weekends, they are still serving brunch up to 2:30/3pm.


    Post # 5
    4263 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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    @valentinesbrunchbride:  As a previous poster mentoned, I believe that the beverages you’ve chosen lend themselves to breakfast foods rather than typical BBQ dishes.

    I had a morning wedding and a brunch reception. My husband and I danced after exchanging vows as a part of the ceremony and then family joined in for the next song, and the reception was a sit down brunch at a restaurant. People ordered whatever they wanted off the menu, but our party was small enough to do that. I think people would still dance in the afternoon. Best of luck! 

    Post # 6
    272 posts
    Helper bee

    My husband and I had a brunch wedding last September.

    Our ceremony started at 10:45 AM, and our reception started at 12:00 PM. Even though it was technically lunchtime, we definitely had a lot of breakfast foods! Our menu included:

    Fresh fruit

    Breads and pastries

    An omelet station

    Cheese blintzes 


    Breakfast potatoes

    Salad (lunch)

    Chicken dish (lunch)

    Beef dish (lunch)

    Seasonal vegetable (lunch)

    We had a DJ and were really worried about people not dancing. Enough people did dance, though it was mostly the bridal party, close family, and children.

    Our reception only lasted a couple of hours though, so even if no one danced, it’s not like the event would drrrraaagggg on while people waited for the first dance, cake cutting, send off, etc. 

    Post # 7
    7843 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Brunch!! You can add a prime rib carving station or something similar if you prefer more meat. 

    As long as you and your Fi get to dance anyone else is just a bonus. 

    Post # 8
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee

    Bloody Marys and Mimosas go with brunch and brunch food.   BBQ, not so much.  

    Post # 9
    189 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    My bias opinion (because I love brunch) is go with brunch foods! – Here in NYC brunch is a religion. Who doesn’t love some delicios french toast with a yummy mimosa or bellini.


    I really miss brunch…

    Post # 10
    990 posts
    Busy bee

    I agree with most PPs that brunch is the way to go! You could add 1-2 “lunch” options to add some formality (a carving station would go particularly well here). Make sure you serve coffee and coffee liquors might be a wonderful addition (if you’re looking for additions)

    As far as music goes this depends on budget but some ideas:

    – In my area when I hired a band they had an “add on” for strings during the ceremony, since a lot of their musicians played more than 1 instrument. You could hire a small wedding band and “add on” the strings for the ceremony/cocktail hour

    – You could do both the string quartet and DJ – again strings for ceremony/cocktail and DJ for reception

    – You could consider the above but hire a string soloist instead of a quartet to save a few $. 

    I’ve never been to a brunch wedding but I have been to a brunch bar mitzvah and I think a few drinks could get anyone to dance!

    Post # 11
    5950 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I love brunch. Mmmm. I think the lunch foods sound good too. 

    Post # 12
    3135 posts
    Sugar bee

    I wouldn’t do brunch at that time. They’re not going to start eating right at 11 if the reception starts then anyway.

    Post # 13
    34 posts
    • Wedding: March 2019 - City, State

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    We spent soo much time deciding about brunch vs “traditional” wedding, and went with the brunch option. Got rave reviews and so happy with how it turned out. Our reception started at 1 on a Sat, so we tried for a true brunch mix of breakfast and lunch items. All the resturants that serve brunch usually have them until 2 or 3 everywhere I’ve lived, so seems like there are definitely plenty of folks who like the breakfast option later in the day! Our menu, if it’s helpful, is below. Dancefloor was full the entire time, and we wouldn’t consider our crowd to be big dancers. We had live strings for the ceremony and cocktail hour then switched to a DJ for the reception really for the reasons you mentioned, and it worked out really well. 

    All of your options sound great and hope you have a lovely wedding despite the covid induced changes! 🙂


    Cocktail hour:

    Chicken & waffle sliders

    Smoothie shooters 

    Avocado toast 

    Crab cakes 

    Mini quiche 

    Artisan cheese and fruit display 



    Assorted fresh fruit cups

    Cornbread muffins



    Green tea crusted salmon with ginger butter sauce & crispy sweet potato

    Chicken caprese served with mozzarella, tomato, fresh basil, & balsamic glaze

    (Personalized options for dietary restrictions, eg vegan, gluten free, allergies)



    Baby kale salad served with toasted hazelnut, goat cheese, pear, & maple vinaigrette

    Pan fried potatoes served with peppers & onions

    Fire roasted vegetable medley 


    Made to order action stations:


    French toast



    Wedding cake

    His and hers donut towers



    Mimosa, bellini, and bloody mary custom bars with assorted mixers/toppings

    Signatures: His cherry limeade and Hers chocolate martini

    Post # 14
    7884 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    11 am is the perfect time for brunch in my world! And I agree that the drinks lend themselves to breakfast foods and definitely not to BBQ (not that BBQ isn’t fantastic, just doesn’t fit the theme in my head). 

    And I realize this may be cost prohibitive, but would it be possible to have the string quartet during cocktails and brunch and then “change gears’ to a DJ?  That would make it really clear when the time to dance would be, and would allow you to have a DJ and MC for the reception, too.

    Post # 15
    7545 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Definitely go with brunch food. 

    I would definitely suggest not having an hour long cocktail hour though, maybe just 30 minutes to get everyone situated and then get it started. I’d take whatever photos you can in that 30 minutes and do the rest of them after the reception ends. Obviously in a more traditional wedding day setting where you’d be having an evening reception you really need that cocktail hour for photos. In this case you’ll have daylight left so I wouldn’t keep guests waiting that long. 

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