Post # 362
Welcome! What a special book you’ve got to look forward too. I find it so heartwarming, thanks for making my day!
Post # 363
I’m so sorry for the disappointing news 🙁 appointments like that are not fun at all. I do know that my clinic does recommend weight loss before treating with any fertility meds over a certain BMI (I’m not sure what it is, but some close friends have run into this problem before) due to risks. I would ask your doctor how far from their ideal BMI are you and what do they recommend you do? Because just leaving it at “your AMH is this and we won’t treat you due to high BMI” is not what you’re paying them for. Ask for some clarification on what they want you to do, when will they feel comfortable pursuing treatment with you again etc. For our friends, they were told she needed to lose weight and once she hit a specific goal, then they would be able to move forward with meds. Have they tested you for PCOS at all? I’m guessing that’s not an issue due to your AMH, but it could be a contributing factor.
Thank you! And yes, FreckledFox and I were talking about there needed to be a board for the inbetween people. I hope it’s helpful for others on here as well! Feel free to chime in with your IUI experience if you want!
I’m so sorry you find yourself here 🙁 The POAS boards can be a little draining after awhile when you’ve been on them for a long time. I hope this thread helps you! As far as the SA, are they ordering another to confirm those numbers? The more research I’m doing, the more I’m finding that repeating the SA is important in low results like that because so many things can throw it off. When do you meet your RE?
welcome! I’m so sorry you find yourself here, but I hope we can be a support to you! FWIW, we just did our 3rd IUI (with injectables though not Clomid) and this was the first one that was successful for us. I know a lot of people who needed a few IUI’s to get pregnant. I hope it happens soon for you!
So sorry for the BFN 🙁
I’m so sorry you’ve been sidelined during testing 🙁 What testing will they be doing? Will they look into RPL panels for you? And I’m so sorry for the family gatherings that hurt more than help. There have been a few of those for me in the past couple of years and it sting. the holidays make it even worse. I hope the RE can help you find a plan that will bring you another sticky bean.
Post # 364
Been lurking for a long time but after another BFN I decided to finally cave and join for some extra support. Its been a long journey, not as long as some, but it is getting harder and harder.
Cycles TTC: 18 months
CD/DPO: 30/10dpo. I am finally averaging a 34-36 day cycles
Age/SO’s Age: 29, 27. Im older
What testing have you already had done or have scheduled? (HSG, SA, thyroid bloodwork, etc). Any issues coming up from those?: I have done ultrasounds and cycle day testing at a civilan doctor. I then did 2 rounds of clomid before my husband left for 6 months of training. Then I had testing done at our duty station and found out we were moving – so on to the next duty station!
Any other known issues?: None
What is the next step in your BFP plan?: I have an appt Nov 3rd at a new fertility clinic. I’m sure they will redo all of our testing… which just takes that much longer.
Fun Question! What’s a quote, song, etc that you keep going back to in this TTC challenge that gives you hope and courage to keep moving forward?
There is a Jason Aldean song: Laugh until we cried. I always get teary eyed.
“Just the other night the baby was cryin
So I got out of bed rocked her awhile and I held her tight
And I told her it would be all right
My mind went back to a few years ago
We tried so long, we almost gave up hope
And I remember you comin’ in and tellin me the news
Oh man we were livin, goin crazy in the kitchen
We danced and screamed and held each other tight
We laughed until we cried “
Prayers and baby dust to everyone going through this. <3
Post # 365
I’m in a similar boat, waiting for AF to come so we can get this show on the road!
We had our first RE appointment today, and I really liked the doctor and the staff. It’s a fairly large practice that definitely has systems in place, which I found comforting! I already emailed my assigned nurse a question and she got back to me within 10 minutes – loving that! We left with a plan for more CD3 bloodwork (my OB missed a few tests my insurance requires on my last CD3 bloodwork), as well as an SA for DH and an HSG for me. I was also thrilled that the RE wanted to treat my elevated TSH right away. He wrote me an RX on the spot, which is something I’ve been trying to get my PCP and OB to do for months! He also referred me to a medical endocrinology practice, so I’m seeing that doctor on Monday.
We’ll circle back to meet with him once we have all of these test results.
Interesting story from my appointment: we were going over the genetic testing paperwork, when I saw DH push back from the table out of the corner of my eye. The next thing I knew, he was almost hitting the ground, about to pass out. The nurse had to come in and give him water and some goldfish. I’m guessing it’s a combination of not eating prior to the 7:15 a.m. appointment and his squeamishness over blood work and anything medical, but poor guy! And the poor doctor! “Nice to meet you, here’s my husband hitting the ground!” I felt so bad for DH!
Post # 366
Do you mind sharing what your TSH was that they’re willing to treat it? Mine is 3, and my OB brushed me off when I told her I was concerned. My RE was a little better, but basically said that an elevated TSH won’t prevent me from getting pregnant but may result in an early miscarriage. Since I can’t even get pregnant, he said he didn’t want to treat it now, since it’d mean being on meds for the rest of my life. His reasoning didn’t make a lot of sense to me.
Post # 367
Sure! The highest I’ve come back at is 4.6, but I normally float right around 4.3 or 4.2. My RE was astounded that my PCP/OB wouldn’t treat it. I had a CP in January and he said it might have been a factor…
Post # 368
Thanks! I guess mine’s more close to the borderline. I’m so sorry about your CP, but I”m glad you’re finally getting treated.
Btw, I lol’d at the story about your DH at the doctor – poor guy!
Post # 369
So I’m in a weird boat, not typical issues, but am not sure where else to go so I’m just going to roll call here but I am just starting testing and can use the support
Cycles TTC: 3 (I know, it’s nothing)
CD/DPO: Waiting for my 2nd chemical pregnancy to resolve (that’s right, 2 CPs in 3 months) my OB has decided to push me up the testing chain since she thinks this is going to keep happening and isn’t worth me coming back every month for betas and then losses
Age/SO’s Age: 27 / 31
Link to chart (if you want to share):
What testing have you already had done or have scheduled? (HSG, SA, thyroid bloodwork, etc). Any issues coming up from those?: Thrombosis panel from previous DVT (all normal), meeting with OB after this CP is resolved for ultrasound and further bloodwork including carrier testing and thyroid panel
Any other known issues?: None, previous blood clot from a long haul flight but negative for APS and other genetic clotting issues
What is the next step in your BFP plan?: insisting on going on lovenox 3DPO, I was on baby asprin after first CP which didn’t do anything unfortunately
Fun Question! What’s a quote, song, etc that you keep going back to in this TTC challenge that gives you hope and courage to keep moving
Post # 370
Sunshine09 , I know how you feel, we’re planning on telling family on Thanksgiving for our first loss and Christmas for our second, so I’m already dreading both of those holidays. My husband hunts with his parents and we were supposed to go with them, but I couldn’t face a weekend with my Mother-In-Law asking how the baby making is going while I was actually losing a pregnancy. So we’re staying home, going out to a nice dinner and maybe even getting a couples manage. I’d love to hear what your RE tells you once you have your appointment. My OB tracked my progesterone through both CPs and the levels were really good so I’m not sure if there’s a fix, I ovulate, conceive and support a pregnancy but can’t get the implantation down. If there are any tests they recommend I’d love to hear just so I have more knowledge in my arsenal for my next appointment.
Post # 371
Thanks! The CP was hard, for sure, but I’m happy we’re moving on with a plan! DH and I were both laughing about his fall out at the appointment last night – what a first impression to make!
Post # 372
2 CP’s back to back is incredibly frusrating. It is a very unique feeling to be able to get pregnant but not STAY pregnant. It’s scary and stressful and very nerve racking. It’s hard to trust your body. It’s an incredibly helpless feeling. I totally understand how you must be feeling. I will definitely share what the doctor says or if there are any results that would explain things. That’s so frustrating isn’t it? That’s my problem too, something about implantation, everything else works, we can get pregnant and I even feel implantation pains and see spotting and have symptoms and all looks good – and then it just goes away. Apparantly I just have a uterus made of Teflon where nothing sticks. I literally have no idea how we even managed to have one child. 1 in 6 worked. (5 early losses – before our son I also had 2 early losses inside of 3 month, and then another 3 since) In the initial consultation going over my history of early losses, the RE did suggest that it might be a cell division issue, not a genetic problem but rather a problem with something in the cells not dividing 50/50 but rather more 70/30 or something throwing the growth off. He did say there is a medication that could help correct this issue, so we’ll see after testing if that is something he prescribes. I can’t remember the name off-hand but I think it might be Lovenox, like you mentioned.
Omg lol, your poor husband! It sounds like you’re off to a good start, I’ve never wanted my period to start so bad! haha But I guess that’s standard so I’ve got another 3 weeks to go – but it seems like then the answers should come pretty quick which is great. That’s good that you liked the doctor and clinic, my husband commented on what a big practise it is and that they have several other even bigger locations, and that all their clients are trying to get pregnant and have babies- that’s it, that’s the only goal. It’s a lot of people! I said I feel like we entered a new family now.
So yes, they will do the full panel including RPL, CD 3 testing and following of my cycle, semen testing for my husband (but I really don’t think he’s the problem since we can get pregnant), very hands on, when the nurse was explaining the process and how involved they would follow us I thought to myself that she was like our sponsor now , lol.
Post # 373
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
I hope it’s okay to pop in here- I watch this thread somestimes because I like to check in on ther friends I’ve made on these IF boards during my 3 year struggle. I wanted to give you some hope. My AMH was 0.3. I also have very, very severe endometriosis, and have had 3 surgeries to remove it. Our story is a little advanced for here, we had to do IVF because though we eventually found out that my husband doesn’t make any sperm, we wanted to try surgery for him that might find a handful (literally) so we eventually needed to ICSI. I had to constantly watch my weight because I was literally at the top number they allow for BMI. If I had gone up one point they wouldn’t have allowed it. Our IVF with donor sperm after my husband’s surgery failed was sucessful (so far). Low AMH isn’t a death sentence. It can make things a lot harder yes, but there’s still hope. <3
Post # 374
Will other people’s pregnancy announcements ever stop ruining my day? I am happy for my friend who just announced, but I am just emotionally crushed with jealousy. I am so tired of these tailspins. Ugh.