Early Save the Date for a super cool date?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 16
    1386 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    I completely understand where you’re coming from with it’s a cool date. We picked 6/6/2020 for the same reason, and know someone who has planned on a 10/10/2020 date FOUR YEARS in advance!

    That being said, we still plan to send out the STDs at a normal rate – 8-12 months before the wedding. 

    Post # 17
    2343 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    Seriously will someone explain why this is such a cool date? Is it because it’s Columbus Day weekend?

    Post # 18
    2971 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

    What’s so cool about 10.20.20? Unless it has particular significance for you, then if you are genuinly worried that there will be a lot of conflicts with other weddings your guests will be invited to, I’d maybe run potential dates by your VIPs and pick one that works best. 

    Sending STD cards out that early seems unnecessary and a bit confusing. People will get it in the mail and automatically just see “October” and you will spend the next year explaining it’s 2020 not 2019. 

    Unless it is a destination wedding, there is no reason to send them out that early. 

    (I say this despite being a Destination Wedding bride who will be sending ours almost 2 years out lol)

    Post # 20
    105 posts
    Blushing bee

     In my home country, these sort of matching-numbers dates are considered lucky and because of that are always the most popular wedding days 🙂 especially on a saturday! 07.07.07 was also a saturday and was by far the most popular wedding date of the decade. 

    Post # 21
    2712 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    frankiestein :  I get what you’re talking about with the number date being meaningful. I dont think you need to send out STDs any earlier though. I would just get on booking as many vendors as you can as this date will fill up faster than normal!

    FWIW I am a math teacher and LOVE when dates are fun. We got married on 10.7.17 which was 7 days after our 7th year dating anniversary. It rained on our wedding day and the rain plan location was an underwater dolphin viewing exhibit called “The seven seas”

    Post # 24
    71 posts
    Worker bee

    There are a few of those 2020 dates that have repetition, but only 10/10/2020 also has the math. 

    Im getting married in 2020 and my vendors have stated that dates like 4/4/2020, 6/6/2020, 8/8/2020, 10/10/2020, and 12/12/2020 are being booked quickly because they are all Saturdays. 

    Post # 25
    41 posts

    I’m missing why this is a “cool date”. Nonetheless I would say 18 months is much too early, 12 months out max. 

    Post # 26
    976 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I think physical save-the-date cards are largely unnecessary, but I do think it’s nice to give people as much notice as possible. We started telling people by word-of-mouth as soon as we booked our venue, something like 16 months out.

    I do sometimes plan trips more than a year in advance, and Google Calendar certainly functions more than a year in advance. People who can’t be bothered to write down a date far in advance just don’t care that much about your wedding. And while it’s certainly possible that something else will come up (a work commitment, or the wedding of a closer friend/family member), there are also plenty of flexible events that can be arranged around a wedding once the date is known.

    Post # 27
    4291 posts
    Honey bee

    My friend who owns a wedding planning business always says those matching number dates are very popular and being on a saturday, it will be even more popular.  She always has multiple events on those days.  

    However, I would not send out a save the date any earlier than a year.  You can always spread it by word of mouth ahead of time, but any earlier than a year and the std will get lost or thrown out and people will forget.  Plus like PPs have said, you can’t call dibs on the date.  People will still choose another event over yours depending on the relationship they have with them.


    Post # 28
    14043 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Honestly, the date might be super cool to you, but to most others (including me), it’s just a date.  I would find it really weird to get a Save the Date so far in advance, especially if you’re only sending it because the date is a math problem.

    Post # 29
    1640 posts
    Bumble bee

    Are you worried about people not making it to your wedding because someone else they know is getting married that date or you don’t want couples who are invited to your wedding to set that date as their own wedding date? Either way, I think you should spread the date by word of mouth for now. Most of my guests knew my date before I sent out save the dates. 

    Post # 30
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    Lol everyone… I think it’s like 10+10=20. Am I wrong? Haha. Or maybe just clean numbers. I considered this date myself if I’m being honest but I didn’t wanna wait. I agree with everyone else. A year out will do. I sent mine out a year in advance and everyone was like “it’s so far away…” but I was very excited to tell everyone I knew I absolutely wanted there. But I will tell you, I thought I chose my date early but a girl at my job had my date just as soon as I did and a friend who I anticipated would attend my wedding had told me another friend of his had even told him she was getting married that day before I had and that was 15 months before our date (next year). And your date will probably be more popular than mine. So I also agree with word of mouth, just as effective especially with those you are close with. 

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