(Closed) Early shower presents… what's proper?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think you open it now, mention it/thank the person for it at your shower- if they’re attending, and send a thank you card within the next few weeks. You don’t need to drag the gift out with you on your flight- that’s ridic.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

When we got early gifts, we opened them and promptly sent a thank you.  I just assumed the person would want to make sure the gift got there.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Open it now and send the thank you now.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@LauraHF:  open the box, if it’s wrapped, leave it,a nd read the card, send a thank you, open at shower.

 

if it’s not wrapped, read the card, send a thank you, leave gift at home.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Agree with PP’s open it now, send the Thank You and mention it at the shower.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@LauraHF:  I am in the same situation. We have been opening the gifts and writing/mailing the thank you notes the day they arrive. I’m trying to make mental notes to thank people individually as I see them at the shower. Do not wait to open and/or write your notes…people want to know that they’ve been received.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We opened early gifts and sent thank yous right away 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Personally I would have thought to open it. My Future Sister-In-Law is throwing me a shower when we go visit FI’s family in May. We live in a different state so gifts will have to be shipped and Future Sister-In-Law told me, “you can’t open them in advance!’ So…I guess you aren’t really supposed to but then what else do you do?! Not acknowledge it until way later?? I still think I should open them…

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@LauraHF:  Why wouldn’t you open it now?

The opening of gifts at a shower is a dull activity. For heaven’s sake don’t add one more to the mix on Skype.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I say open now, mention it at the shower, and send a thank you with the rest of your Shower thank yous

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s fine to open now and send a thank you. It’s possible that they cannot make it to your shower so they wanted to send you something in advance. If you see them at your shower, kindly thank them again in person.

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