Post # 1
Hello Bees! Looking for some friendly advice today, about the oh-so-fun topic of abortion…
Wasn’t sure what section of the ‘bee to put this in, but figured that wellness was a good a place as any other!
Anyway, I’m currently bricking it because my period is late, and just over a month ago we had a condom split on us. (Not good).
I went to get the free morning after pill from my chemist, but she refused because ‘it’s, like, 100% impossible to get pregnant if you have sex during your period.’ (Currently thinking about reporting her, especially if do turn out to be preggers, because I was told in highschool that was total BS.)
I meant to go to a different chemist, but it completely slipped my mind until the other day, when I should have started my period. (I know, I’m crap. I just have a sieve-brain.)
So, things I need answering:
1. Will a pregnancy test show up now?
2. What kind of abortion options are available to me, if it turns out I am actually pregnant?! I’m hoping that, because it would only have been a month, it wouldn’t be a terrifying procedure!
Post # 3
A pregnancy test should be accurate if it is taken after your period should have come. You can take it now.
Post # 4
A home pregnancy test should show a result 4-6 days before your first missed period; so if it’s past time for your current period, TEST. It’ll show up 🙂
As far as 2 goes, I have no idea because I haven’t really looked into that, BUT plenty of bees here should be able to give helpful advice!
AAAND for the first paragraph, definitely report her if you do end up being pregnant. Heck, maybe even if you aren’t, because that just seems screwy. There is a decreased chance of pregnancy on your period, but it most certainly can still happen!
Post # 5
It depends where you are, but it should just be pills and a crappy period to terminate if needed.
Post # 6
Like the PP said, a pregnancy test taken now should give you pretty accurate idea of whether or not you are pregnant. Edit : Sorry, I misread your post. Your chemist needs a) a good smack and b) remedial sexual education. It’s not likely and from what I’ve learned it’s pretty damned rare but it’s NOT IMPOSSIBLE to get pregnant while on your period. It would have to be a “perfect storm” of events but it could happen.
That said, you would have couple options for an abortion. What is termed a “medical” abortion is done with a combination of drugs. One drug (usually something like misoprostol) is given to terminate the pregnancy and a second drug (prostaglandin) is used to induce contraction of the uterus. This method is a good option for an early prenancy but you MUST be willing to undergo a surgical abortion if it’s ineffective (fairly rare.)
A surgical abortion is done by vacuum extraction of the contents of the uterus. Depending on the length of the pregnancy, the doctor may or may not need to do a curettage, which is a very, VERY gentle scraping of the uterine wall. Surgical abortions are usually done in what is called “twilight sedation”. You’re not completely out but you will be very sleepy/relaxed. You would need someone with you to drive you home and keep an eye on you.
The most important thing you can do is educate yourself so you can make a fully informed decision. This is never an easy decision to make, so please know that you’re worthy of the utmost compassion and respect whatever you decide. Wishing you all the best.
Post # 7
As PPs have said,a test would work now. Im not sure what the procedure is really. But I just wanted ti say you should absolutely report the pharmacist,as she gave out inaccurate,misleading and just plain stupid advice. Maybe go back in with a leaflet from your local doctors explaining about getting pregnant,and tell the manager that one of their staff obviously needs educating? Good luck and hope you get the results you want!
Post # 8
Pps said everything I would.
Oh and report that pharmasist.
Good luck hon!
Post # 9
I would ABSOLUTELY report the pharmacist. Some people are against abortion, but not plan B… and this would be a heartbreak to them (actually this would be a heartbreak to pretty much anyone)! I can’t believe that happened to you. I’m so sorry. And I agree with pp’s that you should test now.
Post # 10
Thank you, lovely lovely lovely people 😀
I’ll grab myself a test on the way home tomorrow (or possibly at lunch time, depending on how panicky I feel…)
I’m crossing my fingers that it’ll come up negative, but if not I’ll phone my GP straight away and go and talk to her.
Feeling a whole lot better about my options – I’m pretty clueless on anything to do with pregnancy/abortions etc, so I’d created some kind of hideous nightmare scenario in my head.
And, I NEVER thought I’d say this… but I would LOVE some pre menstrual cramping right about now!
Post # 11
Oh, just to add – I will be reporting the pharmacist. The more I think about it, the more angry I get.
She’s in the only pharmacy in the ‘bad’ part of the Isle of Man (thought it’s actually pretty tame), and is well known for the higher rate of drinking, drugs, underage sex and teenage pregnancy. I’m seriously worried about the advice she might be giving to young girls who might be coming in for help.
Post # 12
I had two surgical procedures in my twenties and they are not an unpleasant experience. I felt good about my decision and physically felt a lot better afterwards.
I have a friend who chose to do the medical and got the shots. She bled for two weeks and felt awful for a long time after.
Just to share my experiences. Good luck, and whatever happens make sure you spend some time processing your emotions alone and with your boyfriend.
Post # 13
i don’t believe in abortions so i have no information about what abortion type options there are…
BUT… the reason i am commenting is because if you do end up being pregnant, you should be able to sue your chemist (pharmacist?) for at least the cost of whatever you end up needing to do. don’t just report or be pissed off… this is a big deal. a whole human life kind of deal… like a human being resulted in the chemist being a total dimwit. lawsuit seems like the right kind of action if you get a positive test result.
Post # 14
@Woodstock: Eh some people are against Plan B too since they believe life begins at “conception” and the whole idea of Plan B is it doesn’t let a fertilized egg implant (note: not me, I’m staunchly pro-choice, but wanted to point it out).
ETA: these same people are often against birth contol (pills, ring, iud) too since they also act to not let an egg implant (in the case of ring or pill this is a secondary prevention since the idea is that you don’t ovulate to begin with, but regardless it is a function).
OP: I have not personally had to have an abortion but I agree with the PP who mentioned that the surgical is almost less invasive than the pills since the pills make you feel awful for days and you actually have to watch it happen (as if you were having a miscarraige) and so I’ve heard it can be more traumatic. With the D&C you will under sedation….
Post # 15
@google: I understand that but I know some people that are against abortion but are okay with plan b (I personally couldn’t do either). but tha’ts besides the point. either way i think we’d both agree an abortion is a little more of a big deal than plan b
Post # 16
Id take a test to find out…
you can go to a planned parent hood and they can give you information… they will make u watch a video and u have to waite a few days before it could be done….
but if ur earlie enough like u said, u can take 2 pills i think it is and u can do everything at home, they say that it could be very pain full tho.. u could have the procedure but if u are really early at times it might not work the first time, hopefully wouldnt happen to you… but its something they would explain..