Post # 1
My wedding is this coming October 2012 (very excited … just over 5 months away!). In lieu of Save-the-Date cards, my fiancee and I decided to create a wedding website. We like the idea of this idea for several reasons 1) I’m a conservation biologist, so I love this more eco-friendly option; 2) I’m a recent grad paying back international student loans and my fiancee is a PhD candidate, so any budget-savers are truly helpful!; 3) We have many guests who are overseas, so it’s a unique way to keep our everyone updated regarding our venue, travel info, hotels, etc.
I’ve been reading a lot about wedding etiquette and when/where it is appropriate to mention your registry info. We included this information on our website. I’m really blessed as I am having two showers thrown for me – this is when we were anticipating receiving any gifts. However, a lovely surprise is that we have already received a couple from some of my coworkers. Of course, I’ve already thanked them personally, but have a question regarding gift thank you cards…
We have not ordered our stationary yet…we are meeting up soon with some cousins were are art/design students and they will be helping us order and design our formal invites. I would like to order matching/similar thank you cards when we work on the invites. Should I prepare an immediate little thank you card to the guests who have already given us a gift from our registry? Or is it ok to wait until we have our thank-you cards and themed stationary ready?
Thank you for your advice!
Post # 3
It’s most appropriate to send a written thank you for any gift received immediately. (The golden standard is to send the note before going to bed on the day you receive the gift!!) Waiting more than a week or two might leave your guest to wonder if the gift has arrived, or if you appreciate it.
Plus, getting these thank you notes written now will mean fewer to write later when you have a whole pile of gifts arriving at once – and a writer’s cramp in your hand!
I’m sure that coworkers will not expect you to have your wedding themed cards back from the printers quite yet. Sending out your letters or cards on any nice stationary will do, but sooner is better than later.
Post # 4
I voted to send them right away, but I don’t think you can go wrong with that or waiting for your stationary. It would be nice to have a quick thank-you, and it might also be a load off your mind to know you have it done.
Post # 5
If we received the gift more than 4 weeks before the wedding we sent a generic Thank You card right away to acknowledge that we did receive a gift, in case they would worry we never got it. If they attended the wedding we sent them another thank you card after the wedding.
Post # 6
We sent thank-you cards for all early wedding presents as they arrived, even though that meant we didn’t get to send our wedding-photo card that all of the other guests got after the wedding.
Post # 7
@yellowshoe: That’s more more less our plan, too.
My wedding is also in October, so I think that once September hits and gifts are clearly wedding presents (versus engagement gifts or shower presents) we’ll use the wedding stationary. We actually hope to have the wedding stationary by then, so we can send those cards out right away on the same cards everyone else will receive. For the engagement gifts, I just used a set from Crane’s that was white with pretty embossing, I thought it looked “bridal” enough to pass.
Post # 8
Wow, thanks so much everyone! I think we’ll do that – just prepare some generic pretty thank-yous to send out now. I was so surprised at how sweet my co-workers were! We were not expecting this at all
Post # 9
Etiquette doesn’t care for fancy designed stationary. It is not polite to wait.
Send them now, and then you are done with them.