(Closed) Early Wedding Gift Etiquette Question!

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you send Thank-you cards immediately for early wedding gifts or wait for your stationary?

    Send thank-you card right away

    It's ok to wait until you have your themed stationary - but be sure to call/email a thank you

    Send thank-you cards out after your wedding shower & thank guest for wedding gift at that time

  • Post # 3
    467 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It’s most appropriate to send a written thank you for any gift received immediately.  (The golden standard is to send the note before going to bed on the day you receive the gift!!) Waiting more than a week or two might leave your guest to wonder if the gift has arrived, or if you appreciate it.

    Plus, getting these thank you notes written now will mean fewer to write later when you have a whole pile of gifts arriving at once – and a writer’s cramp in your hand!

    I’m sure that coworkers will not expect you to have your wedding themed cards back from the printers quite yet.  Sending out your letters or cards on any nice stationary will do, but sooner is better than later. 

    Post # 4
    840 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I voted to send them right away, but I don’t think you can go wrong with that or waiting for your stationary. It would be nice to have a quick thank-you, and it might also be a load off your mind to know you have it done.

    Post # 5
    2515 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    If we received the gift more than 4 weeks before the wedding we sent a generic Thank You card right away to acknowledge that we did receive a gift, in case they would worry we never got it. If they attended the wedding we sent them another thank you card after the wedding.

    Post # 6
    6610 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We sent thank-you cards for all early wedding presents as they arrived, even though that meant we didn’t get to send our wedding-photo card that all of the other guests got after the wedding.

    Post # 7
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @yellowshoe:  That’s more more less our plan, too.

    My wedding is also in October, so I think that once September hits and gifts are clearly wedding presents (versus engagement gifts or shower presents) we’ll use the wedding stationary. We actually hope to have the wedding stationary by then, so we can send those cards out right away on the same cards everyone else will receive. For the engagement gifts, I just used a set from Crane’s that was white with pretty embossing, I thought it looked “bridal” enough to pass.

    Post # 9
    2153 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Etiquette doesn’t care for fancy designed stationary. It is not polite to wait.

    Send them now, and then you are done with them.

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