Post # 1
FI and I have been engaged since Christmas. He involved me for part of the e-ring process, asking what style I liked. Before that conversation, I never really looked at e-rings or wedding bands enough to know EXACTLY what I wanted but I settled on a RB solitaire. I love my e-ring to pieces!!!
He mentioned that he will buy my e-ring with my wedding band as a set so I needed to be sure of what I wanted. I was very laid back about it and said a plain band was fine – especially since I do triathlons and I’m a runner. In reality, a diamond encrusted ring wouldn’t stand a chance with my fitness activities.
So we chose this band.
The set will look like this.
Now, this past weekend, I made the “mistake” of trying on one of my mom’s GORGEOUS rings (I love her multi-diamond bands) and fell in love with the way her 5-diamond 1.5 ct wedding band looked with my round solitaire and now I want it!!!
FI said that it’s still an anniversary band and we have to be married for a while for me to earn such a band as this. He keeps reminding me that it’s important to start simple then build, but OMG!! I WANT THIS BAND! 🙁
(courtesy of “liquifymymind” bee)
Did anyone else get something simple and work their way up or “earn” more bling (editing for clarity) receive more bling as the years go by? Do you and your FI have a similar plan?
Post # 3
LOL, there is no rule that a 5 stone has to b an anniversary band! I know people that use a 5 stone or a 7 stone asa their wedding ring.
I don’t like the word earn either… like you need to be a good wife to get it??? whatevs, if that is what you want as a wedding band, buy it yourself and be done with it.
Post # 4
I think “earning” a band is a weird way of putting it, but I like the idea of starting simple. I have a solitaire engagement ring and I’ll be wearing a plain platinum band with it. I love the look of a plain band.
Post # 5
@TaurianDoll: Something like that, on Blue Nile, goes for like $6,000: http://www.bluenile.com/ca/platinum-blue-nile-signature-ideal-cut-diamond-ring_34901 and they have excellent prices!
Soo I see what he means about having to ‘earn’ it lol. I am sure he didn’t mean it in the way of ‘you need to be a good little wife first before I’ll consider it’.
If you have the money, then by all means.
Post # 6
“Earn” is a word that I use. FI has never said that. He says “we should be married for a while to consider getting an anniversary band.”
I do not like that I had no real say in what band I got. I tried to tell him that typically, the couple buys the bands together (in an attempt to pick out something blingier) but it didn’t work. lol
Well, if it’s for a lifetime, then I guess I can wait a year or two.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I much prefer the style of the plain band with your solitaire, personally. It look so classic and really emphasizes the diamond instead of competing with it!
Post # 8
@canarydiamond: nice! sooo pretty 🙂
Post # 9
I actually really like the band that you have and think it goes much better with your e-ring as it is.
I know people change their rings later in life, but perhaps after the wedding and engagement high you’re on rides out, it wont seem as important to you to have that big sparkle next to your e-ring. I’m doubtful theres that many people who have been married for 5+ years that look back and go “I wish we paid that extra 2,000 so my ring were more sparkley!”
Post # 10
@TaurianDoll: That is exactly the look I have – a solitaire with 5 stone ring. I used the 5 stone band as a wedding ring!
Post # 11
I think having two bands would be perfect for your active lifestyle. You could wear the plain one when you work out and the blingy one all the other times.
DH and I don’t plan to upgrade my wedding band, but we do plan on adding bands and creating a stack as our family grows. We would like to upgrade my ering in the far away future though.
Post # 12
@lilsweetie: Lovely!!! BEAUTIFUL RING!!!!!
Post # 13
@Elky: thank you!
you’re so right. my mom and dad have been married for almost 30 years and my mom didn’t wear a ring until 5 years ago. my dad tried wearing a ring for a few years but never really got used to it. but they have one of the most beautiful and strongest marriages i’ve ever seen. rings aren’t everything.
i think that when you’re so involved with the details leading up to the wedding, you tend to invest more time thinking about the material things while “waiting” to experience the more important things.
Post # 14
I chose a plain band with my solitaire but i think it’s a nice thought. I would like to add another small blingy band for having a child or a 10 year anniversairy. You’ve got to save some things the next 40+ years IMO
Post # 15
@yellowshoe: that’s an awesome idea. i’ve also seen this:
(courtesy of another bee)
I could always get a blingy band later and wear it as a set… or one at a time.
Post # 16
@Cookie86: i told him that he will have to buy me a piece of jewelry for each kid i have lol
we shook on it. gemstones and diamonds for kids. perhaps i could work this band into the deal. and he carries the same logic that you do. FI says that we should save something for the years to come – whether it be more bands or a larger diamond for my solitaire.