Post # 1
So I’m relatively new here–I’ve posted here and there, but if I’m new to everyone reading this, HI!
My question is regarding my boyfriend’s worrying. He keeps mentioning that he’s going to propose soon (he sucks at surprises…it’s actually really annoying). But he’s VERY nervous. He wants to ask my dad’s permission, and he isn’t really nervous about that, but he’s so nervous about proposing the “right” way. How do I ease his mind and tell him that I don’t need a big romantic gesture, I just want him to be him?
I mean, I’d MUCH rather he not talk about it at ALL to me. But he is just terrible at surprises!
Post # 3
I think every girl hopes for this really romantic proposal but most of the time it just doesnt happen that way. I would just tell him that it doesnt matter how its done, just that you would be happy that he even asked you. I think its very sweet by the way that he wants to ask your dad.
Post # 4
You’ll just have to talk to him about it. Let him know that the important part is that he asks in a heartfelt and meaningful way.
Say something like this: “I love you, and I’m so excited to get engaged. I know you’re nervous about doing things the right way, but what’s most important to me is that you’re yourself and your words come from the heart. And even though I know we talk a lot about everything in our lives, it’s making me anxious that you bring the proposal up all the time. I’m really excited about it too, it would just make it even better if I didn’t know all the details”
Post # 5
I agree that you need to just talk to him and tell him that there is no right way to propose and then actually stick to it! I’ve heard far too many people who tell their Boyfriend or Best Friend that they don’t really care how just as long as they are proposed to and then aren’t happy with it later.
Post # 6
I second PinkBubbleGum’s idea.
Post # 7
Good call, PinkBubbleGum! I need to write that on an index card or something
I honestly do not care how he does it, as long as he’s himself. I’m not one of those people who wants the “perfect” anything. He also already bought me a pair of white satin Manolo Blahniks that were on clearance–and fit my feet perfectly–and proclaimed them my wedding shoes. I think that may have been the dry run!
I think his being nervous just makes ME nervous!