- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
My family is born and raised in CA. We definitely have the laid back CA style. A perfect example, my dad wears shorts year round with flip flops, even when he puts on khakis he still tries to convince my mom that the flip flops SHOULD be the shoes of choice. We are go with the flow casual wedding type people. When asked what do you wear to a wedding our response is well anything kind of goes. You should be dressed up and look nice but anywhere from a cocktail dress to a sundress is fine with us! And when it comes to where to sit most wedding are of the find your own seat variety, where ever you like.
I am marrying into a traditional East cost family. Where people have events, wear suits to weddings at the local country club. After the traditional ceremony in the church they move to a reception where ever seat is assigned.
At least this is the seating rule our parents would have us believe. (mine non assigned his assigned)
So far his family has been pretty flexible regarding our laid back approach to the wedding. (although it did take some getting used to) So we decided on middle ground. Assigning table but not seats. You think this would make people happy. Well you know how I said Cal-Mom and Cal-Dad think this is the worst idea ever. Wasn’t I just saying how flexible they were? The problem they say, which has proven to be true is there families can’t seem to figure out how many people are coming.
I can’t tell you how frustrating it is when you get an RSVP from your mother saying sorry 1 or 6 they don’t know yet. 1 OR 6?!?!?!? REALLY?!?!?! The worst part is now my mother seems to be pouting and saying I told you this wasn’t a good idea to assign seats and tells me then I need to contact them if i need exact numbers. This is so frustrating! For the “laid back” side they are being so annoying! Can I only assign half of the tables and tell everyone else to find a seat at the following tables? Is that doable?