Post # 61
- Wedding: May 2019 - Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress
OP, we’re in the same situation! I’ll be away for five days next week on a business trip and want to leave a stocked fridge for my husband. I’m the grocery shopper and chef, and it’s the way I love it. It’s a creative outlet and I honestly see it as my alone time to recharge. He lived by himself for years before we got married and cooked, so yes, he’d be fine making meals for himself…I just prefer taking care of it for him!
For his breakfast, I’m preparing berries in individually portioned Pyrexes (he’ll eat those with oatmeal that doesn’t need any kind of prep). Lunch will be chicken and brown rice with (undressed) salads. For dinner, he’s already decided to grab pizza with friends to watch college basketball for one night, and to go out with his dad for another. So I’ll only have two dinners to make–I’ll likely make a big batch of tacos and prep the toppings (lettuce, portion out tortillas, grate cheese, etc.). I really like pre-portioning to make it as simple as possible. It won’t be as diverse or as healthy as when I’m home, but that’s fine.
Post # 62
I’d do lasagna, and then let him do his own thing to because I think sometimes men enjoy their bachelor-Esque nights of food!
LMFAO at the righteous responses on here. I enjoy taking care of my husband. I do agree with the whole “learned helplessness” thing and have had more than one argument with my husband that I didn’t go to a special laundry folding school… but that said cooking is part of my love language. And it’s not like me being gone is cake for him…. dealing with our small zoo is not an easy one man task. But sometimes I make him something before I leave and other times I don’t, just depends on my schedule. You do you, and the rest of you enjoy your bitter ass lives.
Post # 63
Just ignore some of the comments here. It’s difficult to ask a simple question here without people making judgments sometimes. You made a decision you wanted to make something for him, so be it. I would just make chili. He could either eat it by itself or mix it with hotdogs and buns. Then probably that will give him a few nights to buy takeout of something he wants.
Post # 64
is it called being nice? I see it differently ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Post # 65
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
I think nobody argues that it’s such a bad thing OP wants to cook for husband and makes sure he eats well. But the thing is, buttom line, any person with functioning abilities should be able to do it on their own. If people eat junk the whole time, so be it. It’s personal choice. But having to make sure looks like mothering. That’s why people are discussing the very fact if she should prepare something or not.
I have seen many men “unable” to feed themselves and expect their wife or mom to cook, but I heard none who starved when they’re alone.
My husband isn’t the best cook generally but he had to move out for some time for work and I see now how many more dishes he started making, only because the conditions led him to do so.
I had already commented what food I’d leave if I had to yesterday, so not gonna do it again.
Post # 66
I’d do a sheet pan of roasted veggies and a meat, and make a large pot of rice for side. And put them in containers. You can freeze them. If he’ll eat those? I use to make them when I meal prepped for lunch. Super easy, and cook one and done ✅ or a crockpot meal and again, store and freeze. Or, breaskfast burritos? I like eating the same thing everyday. Not my hubs though. I’d talk with him! Also, I get ideas from FB.
Post # 67
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
My husband does all the cooking in our house, and when he goes away, he leaves me meals. He doesn’t specially cook something separate, but the few days before we’ll have things like curry, chilli, lasagne, etc, and he’ll just make a bigger batch than usual so there’s some left over for me.
I’m perfectly capable of cooking, I lived alone for nearly ten years, and I cooked a fresh meal every night, but the fact is that my husband loves cooking and likes to do this for me. I certainly wouldn’t starve if he didn’t, but it’s a sweet gesture, and it’s a way for him to show he’s thinking of me even when he’s not there. I’m not helpless in the slightest.
OP, curries are always a good bet, they freeze well and are still good when they’re reheated. Also anything that can go in a tortilla is a hit with me.
Post # 68
My favourite thing to make is beouf Bourguignon. It’s easy to make in the slow cooker, absolutely delicious and freezes well.
Post # 69
Id say curry. Or a nice pasta bake. Something that’s quick and easy to do. For me, lasagna is a lot of prep work. Lol.
My partner does all the cooking at home. I can cook for myself I just find cooking for others stressful. And he wanted to be a chef for a long time so he cooks amazing food. Never apologise for looking after your spouse.
Post # 70
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
I’m surprised this post is so controversial. OP–since you and hubby split the chores and you’re the one who cooks, I think it’s sweet to want to leave some food in the fridge for him. Can he fend for himself? Of course. But what’s a marriage for, if not for taking care of each other lovingly?! Go you.
I would do chili, spaghetti and meatballs, or baked chicken.
Post # 71
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
Can you share your beouf Bourguignon slow cooker recipe? Sounds delish!