(Closed) eat, drink and re-marry!! is this too much for some guests?

posted 7 years ago in Encore
  • poll: eat, drink and re-marry. would this offend you?
    yes (i am a first time bride) : (45 votes)
    25 %
    no (i am a first time bride) : (87 votes)
    48 %
    yes (i am an encore bride) : (18 votes)
    10 %
    no (i am an encore bride) : (30 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    1037 posts
    Bumble bee

    @mypinkshoes: I personally would love this if I saw it at a wedding!!!  I would know the bride and groom had a fantastic sense of humour.  I think it’s a great idea and too good an opportunity to be missed.

    Post # 4
    883 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think it would be cute! It’s awesome to be able to laugh about things that were once a drag but definitely a blessing in disguise! Congrats!!!

    Post # 5
    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    This would be such a cute theme if you two had been married to each other previously, divorced and are now marrying each other again. Since it sounds like you were both married to other people this theme makes me a little uncomfortable. Your wedding should be about you two and moving forward IMO, not dwelling on the past. JMHO as a divorced woman who just wants to forget about the prior marriage and move forward.

    Post # 6
    1506 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think it’s a great way to personalize the reception! I wouldn’t be offended at all.

    Post # 7
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Why not!  We totally made fun of the fact that it was DHs second, but we didn’t tell people that (totally different surrounding circumstances) we kept it as an inside joke.  We told people it was because we got married twice, haha.  We played “Ooops I did it again” as our recessional, but we were not at a church, it was a secular wedding.

    Post # 8
    1013 posts
    Bumble bee

    Uhhh personally i wouldn’t want to bring up previous marriages at the wedding. Just saying. 

    Post # 9
    15963 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I don’t really see anything wrong with it, as it’s a mutual decision.

    Post # 10
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Haha! I love incorporating a little quirky humor (you should see the DIY invitation kit Fiance and I just finished last night… the wording makes me giggle!!).

    I say go for it.. as long as any of your guests won’t be completely horrified by it…

    I always say, know your audience 🙂

    Post # 11
    6512 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I get the idea, but I personally would cringe on the inside if I saw that.  That’s just my opinion though – if you love it and are comfortable with it, go for it.

    Post # 12
    1310 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I don’t know, I wouldn’t bring up previous weddings at a current wedding. Especially if some of the guest list was the same for the first one. It would make me think about the first wedding/marriage and even compare the two.

    Post # 13
    5073 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If you guys had divorced and were remarrying each other, yes.   I’m getting married for the second time and poking fun at it would make me feel odd, like it wasn’t as important as the first one – if that makes sense.

    Sort of like, hmmm. . .let me try this again  (but that’s just my personal thought)   

    Post # 15
    225 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m recently married (only marriage) and would probably cringe a little bit. While it’s great that you both are so accepting of the past and can find humor in it, it would seem a little awkward to me, as a guest, that you would even want to reference your other wedding/marriage on such a happy day that’s focused on the future, not the past.

    Post # 16
    1013 posts
    Bumble bee

    @mypinkshoes: From a guests point of view i would think “why is she even bringing up the previous marriage?”.  I get that its a joke, but that marriage clearly didnt last and i would think that are your one day it should be all about you both as a couple and not any previous relationships. 

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