Post # 1
will our guests be okay with us poking fun at the fact that we will both be remarrying?
i wanted to make a menu for the bar and looking at some of the diy menu projects, i really like the ‘eat, drink and be married’ ones. my fiance and i have both been married before so i wanted to put ‘eat, drink & re-marry’ on it instead. just to make our guests chuckle or put a smile on their faces.
our family and friends are totally fine (in fact thrilled) with the fact that we are both divorced and getting married again. i just don’t know how they will feel about that poke (about remarrying) at a wedding. half of our guests have been divorced/remarried, the other half, married once or still single. (stats are correct). i of course would not mention this during the ceremony but is the wedding reception too sacred to make light of this fact of life?
first timers or encore brides, please, tell me what you think.
Post # 3
@mypinkshoes: I personally would love this if I saw it at a wedding!!! I would know the bride and groom had a fantastic sense of humour. I think it’s a great idea and too good an opportunity to be missed.
Post # 4
I think it would be cute! It’s awesome to be able to laugh about things that were once a drag but definitely a blessing in disguise! Congrats!!!
Post # 5
This would be such a cute theme if you two had been married to each other previously, divorced and are now marrying each other again. Since it sounds like you were both married to other people this theme makes me a little uncomfortable. Your wedding should be about you two and moving forward IMO, not dwelling on the past. JMHO as a divorced woman who just wants to forget about the prior marriage and move forward.
Post # 6
I think it’s a great way to personalize the reception! I wouldn’t be offended at all.
Post # 7
Why not! We totally made fun of the fact that it was DHs second, but we didn’t tell people that (totally different surrounding circumstances) we kept it as an inside joke. We told people it was because we got married twice, haha. We played “Ooops I did it again” as our recessional, but we were not at a church, it was a secular wedding.
Post # 8
Uhhh personally i wouldn’t want to bring up previous marriages at the wedding. Just saying.
Post # 9
I don’t really see anything wrong with it, as it’s a mutual decision.
Post # 10
Haha! I love incorporating a little quirky humor (you should see the DIY invitation kit Fiance and I just finished last night… the wording makes me giggle!!).
I say go for it.. as long as any of your guests won’t be completely horrified by it…
I always say, know your audience 🙂
Post # 11
I get the idea, but I personally would cringe on the inside if I saw that. That’s just my opinion though – if you love it and are comfortable with it, go for it.
Post # 12
I don’t know, I wouldn’t bring up previous weddings at a current wedding. Especially if some of the guest list was the same for the first one. It would make me think about the first wedding/marriage and even compare the two.
Post # 13
If you guys had divorced and were remarrying each other, yes. I’m getting married for the second time and poking fun at it would make me feel odd, like it wasn’t as important as the first one – if that makes sense.
Sort of like, hmmm. . .let me try this again (but that’s just my personal thought)
Post # 14
thanks for all of your imput. i see that it is very mixed. i am curious to know if the comments are coming from encore brides or first timers.
did i mention that we shared the same old anniversary? same day, same year, same city. yes. we got married just a few blocks from each other. that is why we are so accepting and laugh about it. we both showed up at the wrong wedding ceremony.
Post # 15
I’m recently married (only marriage) and would probably cringe a little bit. While it’s great that you both are so accepting of the past and can find humor in it, it would seem a little awkward to me, as a guest, that you would even want to reference your other wedding/marriage on such a happy day that’s focused on the future, not the past.
Post # 16
@mypinkshoes: From a guests point of view i would think “why is she even bringing up the previous marriage?”. I get that its a joke, but that marriage clearly didnt last and i would think that are your one day it should be all about you both as a couple and not any previous relationships.