(Closed) Eating Disorder???–Please help (Long)

posted 4 years ago in Fitness
Post # 2
161 posts
Blushing bee

I think this is something you can take control of before it gets out of hand. I live in an area where theres a lot of pressure to ‘look the part’ and as a result myself (and most of the girls I know) watch what they eat as a result. Theres a big difference between watching what you eat and being overly fussy and padantic about it, which I fear you may be becoming.

I used to work for a sports physician who told me the most effective way of controlling your weight is by watching what you eat. He says exercise accounts for about 10%, food 90% and I must admit, I believe this. I watch what I eat and go for about a half hour walk (brisk walk) 5 days a week to maintain my weight (5’5 and 53 kgs/110 pounds) but I did weigh more prior to starting to watch what I eat.

I think its easy to find yourself in a vulnerable position and end up with an eating disorder. I do not think you have an eating disorder but I do believe your a vulnerable candidate.

Are you within a healthy weight range for your height? If the answer is yes, try and love yourself for who you are. We live in a society where there is so much emphasis on our looks (and us poor girls cop it the most) and the pressures are sometimes insumountable. If the answer is no, I think the key is to find some foods you enjoy eating that are both low calorie and healthy (ie: no skipping meals and eating a small maccas burger for dinner!). Also, dont forget, if you are close to your goal weight (or ideal weight for height etc), you will have a lot of trouble shifting that last couple of kilos, you will need to change something your currently doing in order to be able to shift it.

In conclusion, I do believe you have an unhealthy relationship with food (as you stated yourself). I feel that the best way to fix this is to find the foods you like (say oats for bfast) and start on an eating plan that allows you to indulge on healthy items that you dont mind eating. This will be the first step in creating a healthy relationship with food. Dont forget to add a small (quite small) treat in your everyday life (eg: small can of coke) so that you dont feel you have to binge on large amounts of unhealthy food (as you said you did) to get your kick. 

Best of luck with everything, remember to be kind to yourself

Post # 3
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Aug 30th, 2014

Sounds to me like you were depressed. Eating disorders are basically anxiety disorders, usually stemming from underlying anxiety or depression. Of course, eating poorly makes you feel worse!

I think it might be worth it to get a little team together to get your habits back on track. A counselor will help you learn to redirect unhelpful thoughts, so you don’t sink into a crappy mood as much. A nutritionist and personal trainer will help you with accountability and motivation, to start you on the road back to where you want to be physically!

Post # 4
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

nanoinfinity:  Agreed, eating disorders are rarely about food and usually mental afflictions.

angustia:  I think life is tough for you right now and it is affecting how you’re eating and taking care of yourself. Try to stay away from celebrity gossip and negative people and focus on making yourself a better person- sleeping, exercising,  eating whole, unprocessed foods, volunteering, being around animals of you like them, etc… The days of eating whatever you want are over. I teach high schoolers and I see it all the time- the kids eat complete garbage and are super skinny, but when they come back to visit after college they’ve gained a ton of weight. That’s just how young bodies work!

You are the only one who can make a change. You deserve it. Good luck!

Post # 5
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

angustia:  I think a lot of times, people think that anorexia and bulimia are the only ways to have EDs, and that anyone else just suffers from laziness. If it’s to the point that you have to come back here after being away for a while, it means that you at least have an unhealthy relationship with food. Like a PP said, regardless of the label, you should see a counselor who if familiar with EDs and a nutritionist. 

Post # 6
37 posts

Everything you described that has happened recently would screw with the head of even the most sane person. It sounds like you are suffering the after affects of situational depression and grief, combined with self-esteem issues stemming from metabolism issues you have little control over. 

Birth control can make depression worse, you may want to talk to your doctor about non-hormone based birth control options. I’d also highly advise seeking a therapist.

The good news is, though it may not help much, is that you do not have an eating disorder, that is based purely on the current, officially recognized types of ED’s and what criteria each one requires to be met on order for a doctor to give the diagnosis. Also based on personal experience with a good friend who was bulimic most of her life. That is very good because ED’s are slow suicide and once trapped, very hard to get out of.

However I can See the potential for an ED to possibly manifest which is the other reason I recommend therapy. It will be money well spent.




Post # 7
2483 posts
Buzzing bee

Very recent research suggests that women who are experiencing ongoing stress develop compromised metabolism. 

In other words, you feel “off” about issues in your life, begin to gain weight, feel worse, gain more. 

Although the research doesn’t yet suggest a solution to the problem, I personally find it helpful to be aware of the cascade of issues that are operating to make my circumstances more difficult.

Are you completely satisfied that your thyroid function can’t be addressed a little more vigorously?

Post # 9
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Have you tried cutting out the junk food, and eating “clean” food for a while?  Junk food contributes to feeling horrible.  Maybe if you change your diet, you’ll feel better.  I know it’s not that simple, but it’s a step to try before talking to a therapist.  

Post # 10
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

angustia:  It honestly sounds like depression. I would get medical help (counseling, not medication). Your doctor can recommend a good person to work with. Seriously– I know this from experience.

In my family, everyone but me has horrible depression related food issues. When something bad happens, they eat and eat in ways that you describe. They also gain weight like you. When they try to fix the eating with fixing the depression, they just gain more weight and become less happy.

I also have incredibly unhealthy issues with food, but mine are more like the traditional eating disorder. You can always tell how chaotic my life is by how amazing I look in a swim suit. The better I look, the more controlling behaviors come out and the skinnier I get.

Seriously, get some help and then get a friend to help you for the first 3 months. I frequently would have to run to my friend’s house, drag her out of bed, and make her jog with me in the morning. She was struggling and the social time and working out make her feel better. Combined with therapy, she is back to normal.

Good luck!

Post # 11
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

angustia:  Two other things after reading your update:

– Junk food is heavily addictive. When I stress eat with cheetos, pizza, and ice cream, there is no way that my normal diet of organic, whole grains and vegetables tastes as good. I love veggies, but I need to break the addiction to the junk. What I do is forbid junk food in my house. If it is there, I will eat it (and will eat the entire bag of chips in one sitting). So don’t beat yourself up for not wanting veggies. It’ll take 2-3 weeks of healthy eating to break the cravings.

– bodies change as you get older, but that doesn’t mean you can’t look amazing. I had amazing abs and muscles in high school, got lazy in college, and then gained weight around 25 when my metabolism stopped burning everything. I ended up running, lifting weights, and swimming and am now thinner and have more muscle than I did in high school. My shape is different in my late 20s, but you can still be strong and lean with the right kind of work outs. 

Post # 12
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I definitely encourage you to schedule a session with a counselor who has experience with eating disorders. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and recognize that your relationship with food is becoming problematic. There’s no reason to wait until things get really bad – see someone now and start developing healthy coping strategies to prevent the problem from escalating.

Post # 13
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

A nutrionist won’t help much; eating disorders are psychological afflictions and nutritionists often just see one part – food- and not the whole picture.

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