(Closed) Eating disorder urges

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I just want to say (((Hugs))) to you and good for you for resisting the urge to slip.

I definitely have some “disordered eating” tendencies.

Mainly binging and emotional eating.

I’ve taken control of my eating by tracking everything and monitoring my calorie intake and just tracking it and seeing it makes me feel more in control.

Food carries way too much emotional weight for me. It is very hard for me to look at it as purely sustenance.

Can you plan your days of eating in advance or bring food to work just in case you get “too busy” to eat and that way you can snack on something (like nuts or yogurt or string cheese) so you can keep your hunger at bay and avoid the binging and purging?

Post # 4
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

You are so not stupid! ED are nothing like that at all.. That’s so AWESOME that you didn’t give in to your urge! YaY!

You are beautiful and I’m sure that your FH knows that too… now just let yourself know that, over and over and over.

Does your FH know about your history? I would probably take the steps to open that convo up or back up since the urges are starting to show themselves again… My Darling Husband is my BEST accountability partner for things that I’ve struggled with in the past and same visa versa.

Let him affirm his love and acceptance of you! And just know that every bride concerns herself with the wedding day look so don’t ever make yourself feel like it’s trivial or dumb.

Praying that Jesus’ awesome love would totally FILL you heart, mind, and spirit and that it would strengthen you in being the best healthy you you can be. That you would have all the support you need to feel encouraged in your time of planning and that this time would just grow you more into the awesome you God made you to be!!!! In Jesus’ mighty name! =D

Post # 8
929 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@brideatbeach: I’m so sorry about your rough day ๐Ÿ™ 

I don’t have any experience with eating disorders but I do have several people who are close to me that suffer alcohol and drug addictions – it sounds to me like what you go through is exactly like a threatened relapse to an addict.  When people have the urge to drink or take drugs they call their sponsor or go to a meeting as quickly as they can.

Have you got anyone who was with you during your struggles that could act as a sponsor for you?  Talk you down from your urges or at least stay on the phone with you/be with you til the urge passes?  Also I’m thinking it may be an idea to see a therapist that specialises in eating disorders in the lead up to your wedding.  Talking through your emotions might help to avoid the urges.

Best of luck to you – I’m so sorry for what you’re going through.  Please come talk about it on the bee whenever you want – esp. late at night, i’m in australia so i’m always up when other people are asleep! xxxx

Post # 9
2522 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think realizing what how you’re feeling and what sort of thoughts you’re thinking is so important. I really don’t have much advice.  Only that if you ever feel overwhelmed, talk.  Talk to your doctor, counselor, join a support group. 

Post # 10
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

As a woman that struggled with EDs in my past as well I can tell you honestly how proud I am that you resisted that urge. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

I didn’t have ED issues but I DEFINITELY had intimacy issues start trying to come up back in my thoughts and heart through our engagement.

I was seriously damaged by my ex-husband and then just continued in that lifestyle until I was just so broken…. I took alot of time to let God heal my heart before dating or even considering the seriousness of marriage.

As we started our premarital counseling alot of those things starting coming back up though. Darling Husband was so great and is so great in how he loves me and believe you me I spent alot of time in prayer. lol

I think that we get so jacked up by things that happen to us or we do to ourselves that something… whatever it may be for us personally.. starts to rear it’s ugly head when marriage is around the bend…

Just keep your heart strong and keep open with you FH and I’ll keep you in my prayers! You ARE and WILL continue to be victorious over this!!!!!! YAYA!

Post # 13
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@brideatbeach: Definitely deal with it.  I have disordered eating.  I tend to stop eating much after I get above a size 8 until I’m back to a size 8 or below.  Then I follow my diet again.  I diet everyday.  My co workers and friends are on diets, too.  So much dieting.

Post # 16
2547 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have battled with bulimia since I was 12 tears old. I am 22 now and go through my spurts. I would like to say good for you for not purging in years and good for you to resist your last temptation. I know how difficult it can be. When I went through a group help sessionit helped me realize my bulimia is stress driven rather than weight. Maybe it is the same for you. Hang in there, you have come so far, don’t let bulimia get ahold of you again.

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