Post # 1
i turned 30 and it may sound really weird, but since i started planning for the wedding (which is in about 6 months), i have problems with eating. i felt like i had too lose some weight and get more fit (what is normal i guess). but i lost about 12 pounds (really fast) and since i had (and have) a normal weight(nearly underweight now) i should normally stop now and be happy. but the case is food is staring to terrify me and i pretty much eat just vegetables and some whole wheat bread.
i am so afraid that people will think i look fat in my wedding dress and i dont know why. i never thought about that when i went to weddings. i am very self conscious and i dont like being the center of attention. i am so sad about all this and i dont know why wedding planning could be fun for me. i dont want to eat vegetables for the next half of the year but i feel like i cannot eat anything else. i know it sounds so crazy. 🙁 .
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
You need to go to therapy. You have seemingly developed an eating disorder. Please get help.
Post # 3
It doesn’t sound crazy at all. Weddings put a lot of pressure on us to look picture perfect. But do you know what? Your Fiance loves the way you look now and all your guests are there because they love you too. I’ve never seen an ugly bride! Brides just shine such happiness on the day (partly relief I’m sure!). Enjoy the build up to your wedding – I know I missed it once the wedding was over – I had nothing to do! Go easy on yourself. You will look and feel amazing.
Post # 4
I agree with Hodgy527:
it seems like you have developed some kind of eating disorder, or at the very least an obsession. You need to go and speak to your doctor.
Post # 5
This IS the start of an eating disorder. Counselling would be good at this point, to talk about all the streses that have led you to feel and act this way. And if you can, confide in a friend or family member, so someone is looking out for you.
But good on you for recognising the problem early enough. I’m sure you’ll be able to get back to a healthy relationship with food and your body in time for your wedding. Good luck x
Post # 6
thank you all so much. it would be good to talk to someone about that.
Post # 7
I would gently suggest seeking professional help…you may be controlling your food intake so severely to make up for other things you cannot control right now. I would suggest looking up a psychotherapist who is experienced with eating disorder treatment, or perhaps a psychiatrist. If you are obsessing, medications can help with that.
A dietitian is often part of the treatment team for eating disorders, and they can explain the importance of protein, fat, and carbohydrate for proper body functioning. They can help you find options to begin with, if you’ve eliminated many foods at this point.
You stated you fear food. Keep in mind food is your body’s life source, and eating disorders can, and do, lead to death if untreated due to malnutrition. You are doing the brave thing by reaching out for help in the beginning stages. You are not alone.
Hugs – you will be okay!
Post # 8
Oh honey, my heart hurts for you! I echo everyone’s advice about seeking treatment. I think you’re great and deserve to not put so much pressure on yourself! Be kind to yourself, Bee.
Post # 9
Just want to say kudos to you for recognizing something is not right.
Definitely seek help.
Something that has helped me in dark eating times is “food is fuel” we need it to live well, be productive, to work and to enjoy big days like weddings 🙂 hang in there xx
Post # 10
Oh sweetie, don’t let that consume your thoughts. I’ve been having issues with that also. I’m short and kind thick and I don’t particularly like the way my body looks right now. But I have a years time to lose weight and I’ve been working on taking care of my body and eating healthier.
If this is becoming a constant nagging voice in your head that you’re fat, I would at least seek a counselor about it just to talk it out of your system.
*hugs* Don’t let it get to you, what matters is that you Fiance thinks you’re the most beautiful woman in the world! 😀 Focus on good things and get rid of everything that’s enabling your negative feelings.