Post # 1
its been 9 months, 1 week, and 3 days I have been blessed enough to exclusively breast feed my daughter. Today, for the first time I had to have her supplementing with formula. I’m pretty sad about it. I couldn’t tell you why exactly I’m sad. But I’m so upset. Sometimes I feel like I failed her, Fi reassures me I didnt. Most moms don’t even try. Some try and just can’t, especially after returning to work most give up. I’m still really proud. I’m still going to pump my ass off. i hope the relief of not stressing over it all the time comes soon to soak up this sadness. I know I deserve a break.
Ive never in my life worked so hard at something consitently before. I’ve always been over weight. I’ve NEVER been this determined to lose weight, get excellent grades, anything. I was so determined to make it a year, EBF. I guess I almost made it.
Guess im just venting here. It sucks. I’m sad. I’ll get over it. But it still sucks. I know she’s still happy.
Post # 2
Oh goodness!! Don’t be so hard on yourself!! You gave your daughter 9 MONTHS of the best possible thing you could give her!! You go Momma!!!! I just had a baby last month and tried EBF and I just couldn’t do it. So I started pumping away!! My son was a month old on the 19th and I’ve been able to feed him pumped breastmilk! I’ve also managed to get a awesome freezer stash for him!! Breastfeeding and pumping is a lot of work but so worth it. You have to set small goals to make it, and 9 months is amazing!! Congrats girly!!
Post # 3
I commented in your previous thread, but I just wanted to reiterate that you are not a failure and you did your best and that’s all anyone can ask of themselves.
Post # 4
Awe mama, you are AMAZING! I donate to babies whose mothers couldn’t ever produce, so the fact that you went that long is incredible. 9 months is a very long time to be selfless and provide your baby with the best you can give her. And you know what? Now you are still giving her what she needs, and that’s all that matters!<br /><br />You can always look into eats on feet and HM4HB (both on Facebook) and try to find a donor. When I was having to supplement my daughter I used donor milk. Just a thought. 🙂
You did not fail her, that’s not even remotely the case. You gave her the absolute best for 9 months of her life. You’re an incredible mother for even BFing! I have a cousin who decided it was “too much work” to breastfeed, so she jumped straight to Formula. So no, you did not fail her. You went above and beyond for her, in fact. <br /><br />Please, don’t be so hard on yourself! I know it hurts, that’s natural. But take comfort in knowing that you went longer than a lot of moms are able to. ((hugs))
Post # 5
I always had to supplement with a little formula after I went back to work. It always made me sad too, but my kids got mostly breastmilk. You have done a great job!
Post # 6
MrsPhishBee: 9 months, 1 week, and 3 days is AMAZING! I’m 16 weeks in, and like you hope to make it a year but already sometimes feel like, oh man this is going to be ROUGH (I mean, let’s be real, pumping SUCKS) so in my eyes you are a hero! Don’t beat yourself up, you did GREAT!
Post # 7
MrsPhishBee: congratulations! You have done an amazing thing for your bub.. And you still are!! Just shows how much you love and care for bub 🙂
Post # 8
MrsPhishBee: You should be proud of yourself. That’s a long time, many people recommend only 6 months of breastmilk, and you intend to still continue just no longer EBFing. I never EBFed, my daughter wouldn’t latch and I had to pump from the get go and supplement, supply was low. My supply ended up drying up a month in and she’s had formula ever since. 9 months is a great time, don’t feel like a failure because you didn’t make a year.
Post # 9
MrsPhishBee: You are not a failure said as a mother whose milk barely came in and had to pump and supplment to formula at his 5 month mark. Please stop being so down on your self.
Post # 10
ljpink: MissMarple: PacificMrs: Mrs.Sawyertobe: BOGB: MrsAloi: mrs.joiner: Sassygrn:
Thank you all so much for your very kind words. You all made me tear up. I know it’s a great accomplishment and I am SO proud of myself. My mom couldn’t BF and neither could my sister so I sort of had some odds stacked against me. I know deep down I didn’t fail her.. just sucks because I was SOOOOO determined to do it. At least I will still try, hopefully it wont be to hard to keep it up.
BOGB: It is TOTALLY rough, I’m not even going to sugar coat it for you.. LOL. When I went back to work when she was 7 weeks I was getting about 9-11 oz a day and today I only got like an oz. I did leave work early to go get my babe but, still. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But it was way to rewarding to stop!!! Good luck, and don’t quit no matter what! I have tried everything I could think of to boost my supply!
Post # 11
MrsPhishBee: That’s the other thing…just because you’re going to be supplementing doesn’t mean that you’re not going to make it to the 1 year mark. You’ve given your daughter so many benefits so far and are going to continue for however long you are able and want to. Supplementing with formula doesn’t negate any of that, especially now that your daughter is probably also eating more solid foods. I’m sure your daughter will be proud to hear what you’ve done for her and I’m glad you’re proud of yourself..you should be! You’ve accomplished a lot, especially with the hurdles that were in your way 🙂