- 9 years ago
I’m in a quandry. It’s a bit complicated. I’ll try to keep it simple.
Part 1: TWO SISTERS’ WEDDINGS
My younger sister and I got engaged at almost the same time. She beat me by a few months. We were both dead broke, but my parents insisted that they pay for our two weddings.
My (wonderful) fiance and I told my parents that we would just elope. No need to fork over a bunch of money for what would be just one day of our life. My parents, who are very traditional and big on ceremony, insisted on paying for our wedding. I told all my friends and started making some plans.
Part 2: WEDDING DELAYED
After my sister found out that I was engaged, she called me and threw a tantrum. She was furious that I was getting married and insisted on "going first," which meant waiting a minimum of one year before planning my own wedding.
I gave in — partially for my parents, who could use some spacing between two such costly events.
Part 3: THE BUM
Last summer, parents recently threw a *lavish* wedding for my sister, who pretty much married a bum. The heartbreak of a ceremony — literally, the whole family was in tears — cost the ‘rents upwards of $50K.
Part 4: The Economy
So what happened between the time my sister got married and my wedding date? (Which is just a month away.) THE ECONOMY.
My parents lost about half of all their assets in that time. They are really struggling.
Now, I’m in a terrible situation. Everyone has asked me about the wedding, and unfortuantely, it’s been delayed. Indefinitely. I ask my parents about the wedding and suggest that maybe I should just elope. They evade the discussions. I’m sure that they’re embarrassed, feel badly, and just don’t want to be confronted about the situation.
I feel a mixture of emotions. Angry at my sister. Angry at my parents for raising my expectations (and for not being honest with me). Disappointed. Heartbroken. Embarrassed.
What I’m most angry about is the fact that elopment had always been an option. But the surprise and "specialness" of eloping is gone, now that the wedding has become so anticlimactic.
I really don’t know what to do. It’s been over two years since I got engaged and just the word "wedding" brings me to tears.
Anyone else out there cancelled their wedding because of recent events in the world economy? How did you handle it? What did you tell people?