Post # 1
So Darling Husband and I have decided to start TTC late this year instead of next year. (Yay!!!)
But, I am scared because my mom has a bad history of ectopic pregnancies. She had 7 ectopic pregnancies before me and two more before she had my sister and miscarried very late i believe at 5 months with a third child.
I am worried that I will have a hard time conceiving and being able to carry out a full term pregnancy. Are miscarriages/ectopic pregnancies hereditary? I heard that if there is a history of them in the family that my chances of miscarriages increase. I have an appointment in 2 weeks to see my OBGYN for my annual exam, and I plan to talk to her about our plans to TTC. I am also on the pill which I plan to stop taking late this summer.
Post # 2
No, ectopic pregnancies are not hereditary. Just because your mother, sister, aunt, grandmother or whomever had them does not mean you will.
Post # 3
Daizy914: My mom had 5 miscarriages before I came along (and I was a twin to one of the miscarriages). She lost them all between 12-16 weeks. She started at age 25, and ended up with me at 30, so it took her 5 years.
Because of her history, even though I was told it wasn’t hereditary (she had endo and some other issues), I was still scared and went ahead trying at 25 anyway. It took one cycle, and I am currently 37 weeks pregnant with our first baby boy. I convinced myself it would take us forever, but here I am 🙂 Not saying this is what will happen to you, but just be aware that just because your mom went through it doesn’t mean you will.
Post # 4
I can’t speak to ectopic, although I don’t believe that it is generic. As far as miscarriages go nearly ALL the women in my family have experienced at least one (Mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, cousins). I have had zero problems and zero scares, I’m now just over 33 weeks. It was also fairly easy for us to get pregnant (apparently I just needed to actually be home).
As hard as it is try not to worry too much about it. I was convinced that it would take us years, first cycle with the right timing and bam.
Post # 5
PoppyH: how do you “time it right” I have no idea how to start charting
Post # 6
Daizy914: Download Fertility Friend on your phone or visit their website. I am not sure if the new Wedding Bee still has stickies, but they had a great forum post on how to start charting. Fertility Friend is what most people use, and on their website they have a fantastic free course on how to start charting. I didn’t get to the temping portion of charting…the app just told me my fertile and ovulation days, and I was able to time out when to BD so we’d have a better chance.
Post # 7
Daizy914: I agree with megz06 about downloading the app I found it very helpful. If you are like me and want a hard copy of everything think about also picking up the book ‘taking control of your fertility’. I started charting with cm only, and although helpful didn’t seem to quite get the job done. the cycle I started temping was the cycle I got pregnant.
Post # 8
did your mom have any surgeries on her belly? i ask because yesterday i was at the er to make sure everything was ok with my pregnancy (i had some cramping and bleeding that worried me) and the doctor asked if i’d ever had any belly surgeries (which i have) because that can put women at a bit of a higher risk for ectopic pregnancies. maybe that was a contributing factor in your mom’s case?
i understand your fear tho. my mom had fertility issues (she was told that she couldn’t have kids due to severe endometriosis) and i was always afraid that i’d have problems too, but so far that hasn’t been the case. i’m 6 weeks along in my suprise pregnancy, so it happened without us even really trying.
Post # 9
My sisters and Mom all have had easy, successful pregnancies and I recently experienced an ectopic that was unexplained. So, they I’m pretty sure they are not hereditary.
Post # 10
Daizy914: I dont believe your mother’s fertility or infertility is something that passes on. My mom was super fertile and had many children. She never, ever had problems getting pregnant or staying pregnant. I, in the other hand, had problems conceiving and needed help of IUI to finally reach my goal. I know its easier said than done, but try not to overthink your mom’s fertility or anyone else’s tha is related to you. GL and hopefully we will hear of your BFP pretty soon! 🙂