Post # 1
So ladies I am going to share this as I have not shared with anyone but my Darling Husband and our mothers. I got married 4 weeks ago. A week before the wedding Darling Husband and I found out we were expecting. We were super excited as we planned on trying immediately anyway. We weren’t going to tell anyone until I had my first appointment at about 2 months. We were also shocked because I had been on birth control for 6 years and didn’t think it would happen so soon as we had only been unprotected for a month. I stopped the pill got prego in 3 months. With only trying for one. So not too bad. I was so worried being on b/c for so long would delay the process.
So we have this amazing wedding. The next day I’m in the ER for bleeding. I’m about 5.5 weeks with HCG levels in the 200’s. They can’t see anything on the u/s and want me to come back 3 days later. Well I couldn’t I was leaving for my honeymoon in hours. So we still took our honeymoon, which was the most wonderful experience, even though I bleed the entire time. We return to the ER again a week after being there the first time this time HCG level only in the 400’s which should have been in the thousands by this time as I was almost 7 weeks. The u/s still revealed nothing but a small “something” on/near/in my right tube. They ruled it ectopic. I was told I needed to have surgery or get the shot. I took the shot as I didn’t want surgery if I didn’t HAVE to. I was admitted overnight, monitored, and release the next morning. I had been there about 20 hours. I bleed still for about 3 more days then it finally stopped. I returned to the ER for an HCG follow up and was told that my levels rose to the 700’s after they should have dropped. So I was admitted yet AGAIN overnight and given another dose of the methotexate shot. This time only there for about 12 hours. I was told to follow up with them or my doc. I decided to go to the doc I would have used for the pregnancy (best decision ever). As I was starting to hate the hospital, doctors, and nurses there. It was an exhausting experience each visit and they weren’t comforting or helpful. The benefit to this is that throughout this whole ordeal I didn’t experience any real pain or issues with my body. I honestly felt normal this entire time which I’m thankful for because I’ve read some horror stories since ectopics can be life threatning.
So a week after the 2nd dose of the methotrexate shot I go to my new doctor and have my blood drawn for a follow up. I get a call the next day (this week) telling me that my levels are 112. Yay! and that they have dropped substantially. My doctor told me I have to wait until my levels drop to under 5 and I get my period before trying again which could easily be another month. But at least not the 3 month wait I’ve been reading about. We really want to TTC ASAP. She said since we didn’t have history of birth defects and I’m perfectly healthy otherwise that we should be okay. I’m praying that the two doses of the shot speeds up the process for my levels dropping and I’m at 5 or preferably below soon. The doctor didn’t say but I think I being on birth control so long could have contributed. There are no studies out there besides regarding the IUD but I’ve read so many women have ectopic pregnancies after being on the pill it just makes me wonder. My son is 7.5 and wants a sibling. I hope I get pregnant easy again since each time I have. I will admit that I’m a little scared after this incident of this or something else just as bad or worse happening again.
Thank you for reading this far. I just needed to vent and get that off my chest. Please post comments, suggestions, similar stories, etc. I want to hear it all.
Post # 3
🙁 I’m sorry. My friend and an ectopic and it was awful, to say the least. They finally took her in for surgery after 3 weeks of bleeding, and she lost an ovary. It sounds like you kept both of yours, and I wish you all the best in trying again.
Post # 4
thank you! I’m grateful because most stories I read ladies have lost and ovary or tube. So I’m lucky to still have both ovaries and tubes. Then no surgery, no pain, and really no symptoms other than bleeding. God is good! Although I won’t rest easy until I’m in the clear. Levels zero or negative.
Post # 5
Hugs. I had something similar happen to me. I had what is called a molar pregnancy when we were trying for my son almost three years ago. It shocked the hell out of me because I am Black, mid 20’s and used nonhormonal BC, IUD. The risk factors weren’t there for me but I still got the molar.
After my D&C, I had to get my blood drawn weekly to see if the hCG levels were dropping. If they weren’t, the molar could have turned cancerous in my uterus and I would have had to get the methotrexate shot. Thankfully, I went from 190,000 to 22 within 3 weeks. After I hit 9, I made the decision to TTC again right away (my OB gave me permission since my numbers fell so quickly, she wasn’t worried). I ended up pregnant that very next cycle and now I have my son. I love that little boy to pieces after all we had been through trying to get him.
Dont feel alone *hugs*
Post # 6
I’m sorry…I hope that you guys get to try again soon!
Post # 7
hey wedding bee bff. I’m so glad to hear from you. I’m sorry that happend to you. Thank you for sharing as it’s refreshing to hear a success story. It gives me hope. I just pray these levels drop ASAP and this period comes so we can try again. Like you I was shocked because I didn’t have any of the risk factors either. Anytime I ever had unprotected sex I got pregnant including this time. That’s why I stayed on birth control so long because I felt like I was young and fertile. Being that a woman is the most fertile after a pregnancy I’m hoping to use that to my advantage. I understand why the doc says have one period though. Since my bleeding stopped two weeks ago I pray I get my cycle within the next two weeks. And of course my levels below 5.
My son is 7 and his daughter is 10. We’ve been together five years so it’s a long time coming.
Post # 9
Update: received my lab results back today. My levels are now at 58. They dropped almost half from last week. I’m glad and positive as this is a good sign. But I am ready for them to be at 5 or less so that I’m.in the clear. At this rate I’m hoping for them to be there next week. I dropped 54 points from last week so if I do exactly that again I will be at a 4. So that’s my outlook on it now. I think I will wait an extra day or two before getting my blood draw and maybe that will help the level be lower since it should be decreasing everyday.
Post # 10
@PrettySedity: I’m so glad to hear your levels have dropped so much. I hope you get under 5 soon! Mine never rose to 3 digits. I bounced around for 4 weeks as low as 22 and as high as 53. It just kept staying in the 50s even after I was medicated. As you know they ruled it an ectopic pg and I had my methotrexate shot one week ago tonight. I had blood drawn yesterday morning and I’m at 31 (it was 55 last week). So I hope to drop quickly. This has been such an emotional roller coaster. I need to get off and regroup. Take care of myself and gear up for AF so Darling Husband and I can try again ASAP! Thank you for the Email.
@armychica06: Your story gives me hope!
Post # 11
@Wispy: No problem. Good Luck to you. I agree with trying to regroup and waiting on AF. As well as the emotional strain. It’s a lot to deal with. It’s been the longest month ever. I’ve been married a month and haven’t even gotten to enjoy my Darling Husband. I can’t wait for normalcy to return. I think I will start to enjoy things I love to take my mind off of everything. We’re also gearing up to move so that will help me get my mind on something else. Shopping, decorating, etc. Then by that time I should be good and preggo. Lord Willing!
Post # 12
wishing you a speedy recovery and a successful pregnancy next time!
*hugs* hang in there girlie!
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2010 - V. Sattui Winery
Big hugs! I had a similar experience and was also administered a methotrexate shot. From the time I started bleeding (about 6 days after BFP) until everything was said and done, it was 62 days of bleeding. Not fun! But here I am 2 years later and we are 17 weeks pregnant, so there is hope! 🙂 Sending you healing vibes! xo
Post # 15
I’m very sorry. I hope you heal quickly. Best of luck to you.
Post # 16
I’m so happy the second shot seems to be working!!!! I also had an ectopic pregnancy while using an IUD. The first shot didn’t work on me, and the day before my second shot was scheduled my fallopian tube burst! I had surgery and lost my right fallopian tube.
It was a tough a REALLY tough time. But I’m happy to be healthy and feeling emotionally better.
I’m extremly happy chances are you won’t need surgery! Big hug!!!!