(Closed) Education/Grade = Teacher Responsibility vs. Student Responsibility

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@alotlikelove:  I saw that on ifunny last night and it could not be any more true! I was failing algebra 2 my sophomore year in high school because lets face it, math it NOT my thing. Howver, when the grades came back, my mom and dad got on my ass. NOT MY TEACHERS.

I’m a preschool teacher now but am in grad school for early childhood education and even in preschool, it seems like its ALL my fault because this child is 3 and cant sing the ABC’s along with everyone else. I only have each set of kids for 3.5 hours a day. The rest of the day belongs to the parents, do the math.

I get so angry sometimes I want to cry.

I bet in high school its even worse with students playing sports and trying to get into college and what not.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Eh, as long as I got passing grades, my parents could care less what I did in HS. I really had to push myself to do well, there was no one else to do it.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@alotlikelove:  Yep, I’ve seen that picture a lot and it seems to be SO true in so many ways. Parents are always so quick to blame the teachers and coaches these days (and I’m both).

And it’s the same with discipline stuff. There are kids that never hear “no” at home and then get in trouble at school, and instead of the parents taking a look at their own parenting style or the stupid actions of their kid, they blame the teacher!! So frustrating.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I feel you… my sister is also a teacher in NJ and they wanted to judge her on her job by the percentage of passing and failing students in her class.  This was for whether she would keep her job or not… thank gosh it didn’t pass.  The problem was it was based not only on grades the teacher gave but standardized tests. My sister who is a special education teacher did not have any special insets within the law since her students will fail any long standardized tests. 

I think its completely rediculous.  If I ever failed when I was younger it was MY job to correct that poor grade or suffer consequences.  It never fell on a teacher to improve my grade for MY own poor work/study habits.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My mom would ask the teacher because she felt it was easier to go straight to the source (the teacher) rather than pull teeth and listen to a bunch of excuses from me. Teachers can often times pin point exactly what the student needs to do to succeed whereas a student will just say ” IDK why she doesn’t like me mom”. As for the parents blaming the teacher………. well its easier than blaming themselves. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

why does the 2011 teacher have so much clavage lol maybe thats part of the problem lol

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

AMEN SISTA!!!!  3rd grade teacher here and I swear it starts early.  I will say, A MAJORITY of my parents are great.  But there’s always one who ruins the rest.  It’s always what I haven’t done.  And amazing how some parents decide to start caring when the grades are in the books.  I’ve always said that if I leave teaching, it will be because of the stress of the parents…never the children.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@jigga143:  I get it when parents want the information “from the source,” but too many of them approach teachers the wrong way, i.e. blaming. The best way to do it is to meet with the student/parent/teacher all at once so that there’s no ‘he-said/she-said’ stuff going on.  And yes, that’s a strange decision to put so much cleavage on that 2011 teacher – I definitely don’t dress like that!!

@Mars62312:  Yep, it’s usually a couple of parents that are just terrible and leave such a bad impression for the others!! And I completely agree that the parents cause most of the stress. Someone once told me (jokingly) that the best teaching job is one at an orphanage. !!!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn

I think that parent/teacher relationships are a huge part of today’s educational world. I always appreciate the parents who come in concerned about their student’s progress and aim to solve it by working as a team. Sometimes, though, the parents want to point fingers at the teacher which I find completely unacceptable. I want to find out why the student isn’t performing well, not punish them for personal reasons. Parents sometimes have a hard time figuring this out.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@E_Lynne615:  Yeah!  We always say that we can do our jobs the way we’re expected to if it were a boarding school.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@E_Lynne615:  Totally agree! parents should never be nasty to a teacher.

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