Post # 1
that I introduce myself to the boards. I have been reading and checking out things on here for the 2 weeks. But I think it is about time I officially begin the waiting game.
My SO and I have been together for 7 years since graduating from high school. We have lived together for 6 of those years. He has always been very keen to have children together as many of our friends have little boys that he would love to have as one of his own. However, raised catholic I have told him (many times!!) that I would prefer to get married before TTC.
Previously I had made it known to him that I wasn’t ready to get engaged/married/TTC as I was too young/focusing on my career. We often talked about it in that ‘one day when we are married….’ but never really put much thought into it. But after just having my last birthday I started to think maybe it is time that we start thinking about getting engaged.
So I started to drop little hints and asked who would he like on his groom party and pointing out pretty e-rings. Straight away he visited his mother (who lives out of town) and asked about whether or not he should include his brother as one of the groomsmen.
Then after one particularly bad day at work I was pretty miserable and upset when I came home. That night SO dragged me out and we went and got icecream and went up to the local lookout and watched over the lights of the city. It was a very nice night to cap of a bad day. On the drive home I finally decided I would bring it up straight to the point and said “I have decided that I want to be engaged by 2012.” I braced myself for the reaction but he just laughed and said in a silly tone “Oh you have just decided this have you?” and all I said was “yup.” and left it at that.
The next day I get home from work and he has done ALL the washing/cleaning and has a bunch of pink roses waiting on my bedside table. So sweet. Later that night he said to be “well, I was thinking before we get engaged your grandmother should know my name?” I was abit confused because they have met many times. But he explained that she never remembers his name and I explained that she is getting on a little it probably wont happen and she regularly calls me by my mothers name so not to take it personally. He just gave a cheeky smile.
THEN last night I rang him for our routine goodnight phone call (he works away on week on/week off shifts) and I asked what he was upto and he said I am looking up a present for you!!
Am I getting a bit premature or does SO actually seem excited since I have given him the all clear?? I wasn’t really expecting him to take it all so well and as he is usually a person who has that “I’ll deal with it later attitude”. Haha. Do you think it was a e-ring that he may have been looking up because he doesn’t usually look up christmas presents this early??
Need your advice bees as I have all these ideas floating around in my head! Sorry its so long!!
Post # 3
Sounds like you might be on the right track. Welcome to the Hive! Keep us updated.
Post # 4
Welcome to the Bee and to waiting. Its sounds like he is looking up a present for you, and the holidays are quickly approaching, you might just be getting what you were wishing for. I hope it happens soon for you.
Post # 5
Welcome to the hive! Thanks for coming out of hiding.
It’s always hard to say through these posts what the guy is doing. I’m very hopeful for you, but I don’t want you to get disappointed if it doesn’t turn out to be a ring. Regardless, your guy sounds very sweet. Even if you don’t get a ring right away, it definitely sounds like he’s working on it, and it seems like you’ll have a very sweet proposal, based on this nice things he does anyway.
Post # 6
Welcome! I certainly can’t say what your boyfriend is up to, but I sure hope it’s a ring! 🙂
Post # 7
Welcome to the hive! Like PPs said, it’s hard to determine what our guys are thinking/planning, but no matter what, enjoy the moment, and keep us updated!
Post # 8
welcome! from what you have said it sounds like your bf is not opposed to getting engaged by 2012 so an engagment may be coming! 🙂 he sounds sweet! best of luck 🙂
Post # 9
Welcome!! Like PPs, have said, its hard to say. But keep us posted and have fun in the process!:)
Post # 10
Welcome to the hive! Sounds like he’s on the right path! Don’t think about it too much because you will drive yourself crazy!
Post # 11
Welcome!! As others have said, you can never be sure, but I think it sure sounds promising!
Keep us updated!
Post # 12
Welcome to the hive. It could very well be a ring but just try to not get excited about it thinking that it is because it may not be. Although the fact that his taking everything in stride is a good sign. I’m pretty sure it’ll happen sooner or later just try to enjoy the present whatever it is.
Post # 13
Hi everyone. Just a little update. The present that he was looking up was a camera. A very beautiful camera, I must say. I am definately not disappointed.
I gave him the 2012 timeline so not to make him feel pressured which I think helped with him taking it so well. I know our time will come and until then I will enjoy the suspense. Thanks for your help Bees.
Post # 14
Welcome to the WB! We will keep our fingers crossed for you that your man has a SPECIAL present for you this year!
Post # 15
Welcome!! A camera is nice!! Maybe he has something else planned for you too. He sounds really sweet. I’m sure your time is coming soon!!
Post # 16
Omgsh!! SO exciting! — I think it sounds like he wanted to make sure you would say yes and now knows you will. I think a lot of guys are nervous to ask because they are worried of being turned down!
DON’T expect it though. Before we got engaged, I expected it on every single holiday and for christmas 2009 I got a little beautifullly wrapped box of ….. you guessed it….earrings. We werent talking about marriage though so it is a little different but I was disappointed to the point that I almost cried unhappy tears when I opened half carrat diamond earrings!
EDIT: oops! Just read through the other posts…. lesson of the day: Read before your reply.