Post # 1
Regular bee going anonymous for this one.
I’ve worked in the same job for 8 years in a fairly male-dominated industry in a government department. It’s a good job, pays well and is comfortable. Several months ago, I applied for my dream job in the same industry but with a different government department. The pay is much, much higher and the job would be a step up in my career. A few months passed, I never heard a thing, and I was disappointed.
In the mean time, my husband and I decided to start TTC. Lots of our friends have fertility problems so naturally we assumed it might take a while to conceive. Of course, we got our BFP on the first try (yipee!) and I’m currently 6 weeks along.
Today I received a phone call from the dream job requesting an interview. I was shocked. The interview is next week.
Should I disclose at the interview that I’m pregnant? Although they can’t legally discriminate against me for that reason, what if I lose out on the job and then miscarry? Or what if I get the job and miscarry? We haven’t even told our families yet so I’d feel odd telling a panel of strangers.
My rec and maternity leave is transferable between departments so it’s not an issue in that regard – I’m just concerned about accepting a job then needing to take six months maternity leave so soon after starting..
What would you do?
Post # 2
I think you should go for it, and not tell them that you are pregnant. There is always a chance that you won’t get the job either way. Sure, they might hire you and then get pissed when you tell them that you’re pregnant AFTERWARDS, but thats life.
Good luck on your interview 🙂
Post # 3
Personally, I would not disclose it. They do not need to know your personal history at this time. I would focus on getting the job, and then disclosing when you feel comfortable. Telling them you are pregnant won’t matter one way or another at this point.
I too work at a government agency and became pregnant shortly after accepting a new position (same government agency). I told my new manager about my pregnancy only when I felt comfortable, and largely because I need to plan around my rotations (I’m a doctor). There was no issue. They told me I didn’t even have to tell them as early as I did. They informed me of my FMLA benefit, and said they are more than happy to work around my needed time off.
Post # 4
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I would absolutely NOT disclose your fertility status. It has NO bearing on your ability to do the job. Why on earth would you intentionally sway their perspective?
Post # 5
No, I would not tell someone that at an interview. It has no bearing on the job, I mean you can still perform the job right? Just tell them once you are hired. I actually interviewed for a transfer while I was pregnant (I didn’t know though) and I got my BFP a day after I put in my two weeks at my old job! So I just waited 3 months at my new job and told them then (well besides HR, I told them pretty early). But I didn’t tell my direct supervisors until after 20w. I work in a university setting so no one had an issue with it at all.
Post # 6
I interviewed for two federal jobs while TTC (one interview was right after I miscarried, one was when I was pregnant again). I would say interview. Rock the interview. Get the job. Once offered, and not before, disclose that you are expecting and that you have questions about how your leave would transfer between the departments.
For my job, it was fine. I wouldn’t think twice, but I also wouldn’t tell them until I got the job.
Post # 7
I agree with others- do the interview, (good luck!!!) but do not disclose — then if everything falls into place, deal with it then. 🙂
Post # 8
Absolutely do NOT tell them you are pregnant. Even though they can’t discriminate, they can always say they didn’t pick you for some other reason. I personally wouldn’t even tell them at offer time, and would wait until 12ish weeks or whenever you’d normally feel comfortable telling work, if it weren’t for the new job. I got pregnant essentially the first week of my new job (by LMP), and waited until I was 16 weeks and had proved myself a bit before telling my boss which worked out well.
If, heaven forbid, you have a miscarriage, you would just call out sick. It’s not like our bodies are put on pause when we get a new job, pregnant or not, so nobody would necessarily be suspicious.
Post # 9
Interview, don’t disclose the pregnancy, it’s too early anyway. Good luck!!!
Post # 10
Do not tell during interview or even when offered. I would tell when its necessary. If this was your current position would you tell them your pregnant now at six weeks? Why would you tell a new job?
Post # 11
I agree with everything that has been said. Do not tell them. Rock that interview and then tell them when you are ready.
Post # 12
Don’t mention your pregnancy at all. Go to the interview, nail it, then once you get the job you can think about when to disclose your pregnancy. Even though they legally can’t discriminate against pregnant women, you want to market yourself the best way possible while going through the interview process.
Post # 13
Tell your new job (which fingers crossed you will get after you NAIL the interview) that you are pregnant when you would have told your old one. No sooner.
Post # 14
I agree, interview and no disclosure of pregnancy. It is too early in the game to be disclosing anything anyways.
This is likely not the first time this has happened and won’t be the last. Good luck!
Post # 15
Wow, thanks bees! I honestly wasn’t expecting such a landslide of “no” votes.
I guess I’m just worried that they’ll think I lied to them if I do get to job or that there’ll be inportant project work that I’ll miss whilst on mat leave.
Our department hired a lady specifically for a project in September – she started in May, announced she was pregnant in June, worked for two months then took a year’s mat leave in August. She told me specifically that she had no intention of being there in September when she’d taken the job – she simply wanted better money during mat leave.
The whole situation really upset me as she was terrible at her job and took constant leave until she called and requested for a payout package last year (the nerve!). She worked a total of two months in nearly three years of employment and I was the one to take on all of her work. I guess I just don’t want to be seen to be taking advantage of the situation like she did.
Anyway, your responses were very helpful so thanks again. I will keep quiet at the interview and see how I go from there 🙂