- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
After 8 months of planning I just now had my first bit of anger while wedding planning :(. So I will vent to those who understand :). This may end up a bit lengthy so I apologize in advance.
My Maid/Matron of Honor and I have been on some distant terms since her new boyfriend (who is a total jerk, we won’t go into details). They started dating shortly before we got engaged and had I know how she would be now, I wouldn’t have asked her. To make it short she has done nothing and by nothing I mean doesn’t even ask about the wedding plans or how things are going. My other bridesmaids have to ask her if she is doing anything and if she needs help. I had a heart to heart with her about letting one of the other girls be my Maid/Matron of Honor even though she was in a different state. The other girl really wanted to and was so excited. She told me she wanted to do this for me and that she couldnt be excited about the wedding because it was so far away. So I now have 2 MOH’s. After her and I’s discussion I had thought to myself that I should ask her to participate in more of the things if she wants like tastings and so on and so forth. Since she is my Maid/Matron of Honor I wanted her to be a part not because I NEED her to do things, but because I’d love for her to be there with me because she is an important person in my life.
I will skip the rest of the many many stories I have regarding her and I’s differences and skip to tonight.
My mother, Fiance and I had scheduled a tasting at the reception venue. I also invited my Maid/Matron of Honor despite our recent differences to be a polite person and involve her in some things to maybe spark some excitment about the wedding. I had told her that they don’t do tastings so my Fiance and I would be paying for the food ($25 a plate). She said ok and we all met at the venue…and by all of us I mean my mother, my Fiance, her, myself and…..HER BOYFRIEND!
She brought him along without even asking, I had no idea he was even going o be there until I heard him talking in the car. Neither my Fiance or I care for him and she is aware of that. We also hardly know him, we have seen him maybe 3 times since they have been dating over the past 8 months or so and she is a girl I used to spend every weekend with. I could understand if we were all GOOD friends and if she had asked, but she didn’t even ask…Luckily and unluckily the vendor forgot we were coming and we have to come back for the tasting. I will not be asking her again and if I do I am going to have to make the point that I cannot foot the bill for her boyfriend’s meal. So not only was I mad about him, I was mad about making the drive and having my friends and family make the drive for no reason at all.
The whole time he was there he sat IN THE MIDDLE OF THE FLOOR while the rest of us stood like adults for the half hour we were there, offered himself a glass of water from the passing waiter, roamed around the entire venue asking if he can use the pool, openly made comments about the cost of things, PICKED our bartenders (literally told the guy that gave him water that he could be our bartender) and last but not least stood there and groped my Maid/Matron of Honor in front of the event coordinator.
It was a mess and I know I may be overracting, buuuut I needed to vent.
The end <3 thank you bees. 🙂