Post # 17
I would only consider it for my sister. (I was going to say my siblings, but then realized the implications of me donating an egg to my brother! :o!) I can’t seem to come to terms with the ethical issues involved with egg donation to strangers. What if my biological child unknowingly meets my donated-egg-biological-child later in life?
Post # 18
I offered to donate for my sister as she’s had trouble conceiving, but she hates needles so much she declined. It’s an open offer to her if she changes her mind.
After that I thought hard about whether I ought to donate in general if I was willing to donate to her. I never came to a conclusion or acted on it, but I did a lot of research. I’m sure I’m now too old to be wanted as a donor (32). It’s a fairly invasive procedure with rare but signifcant consequences at times. It’d take a lot for me to want to do that for someone I don’t know & love! At the time I looked, about 7-10 years ago, I would have been a “highly compensated” donor due to test scores/schools I attended/a few physical characteristics (while not rare, ones that weren’t terrifically common either).
Post # 18
I would do it for sure. My FH is actually the one who is against it. I will revisit it after we have a few children of our own.
Post # 19
i would love to but as we havent had kids (and no plans to) that seems to cross me off the list as a possible canidate
Post # 20
No way and ESPECIALLY not for someone I know. I can’t watch someone I know raising my mini me!
Post # 21
No, and I wouldn’t allow my FH to donate his sperm either… It’s selfish and I wish I could be the kind of person who could give that gift to someone, but I just couldn’t bring myself to give part of myself to a stranger or even more, see one of my family members being called mommy for a child that I know has my curly hair, my blue eyes, etc. 🙁
I think being a surrogate for a family member is a different situation and I would do that. You didn’t ask that, but I would be curious to see what the women who said no to donating would say about surrogacy (without using their genetic material) Maybe I’ll make a seperate thread!
Post # 22
I don’t know what the procedure is like, but I wouldn’t want to do it if I had to recover for a long time (more than a week). 5-10K is definitely not enough lol. I would if someone paid me a LOOOT more though. Being bedridden for money is not worth it! It sounds creepy, nobody sells their kidney o.O
Post # 23
@chastenet: What if my biological child unknowingly meets my donated-egg-biological-child later in life?
This is a concern of mine too. But mostly, I want to have a say in how my biological child is raised and it would just be way to hard for me to separate from it. I also would not let H donate sperm, were he so inclined. I don’t know if I would have cared 10 years ago, but now we are so close to TTC that I want it all for me! I’ve also heard the experience is really not pleasant for the egg donor.
Post # 24
No, there are too many risks associated with it. I also do not like the way college students are exploited– they are often targeted with ads for egg donation because they are drowning in the rising costs of higher education.
Post # 25
I’m really undecided on this. I have a difficult time processing the fact that I could have biological children out there and not know them. That being said, it is a very selfless thing to do, and if I were to do it, I’d rather donate eggs to a stranger than someone I know and would have to be around…I think it would complicate the dynamic too much.
Post # 26
I wouldn’t. I’ve heard that it is a brutal process and I would not want to go thru it
Post # 27
Yes, I have looked into it several times. I would do it for free due to personal reasons.
Post # 28
I would have said no before going through infertility, but now that I’ve been there I think I would.
Post # 29
Nope. Maybe if I were in college and single. But now, no.
Post # 30
You have to have a very specific background to be accepted, typically, and I don’t think I’d pass!
I really doubt I would. The Boy considered being the donor for his best friend and her wife, and it made me feel kind of weird… Although in the same vein as the surrogacy thread, if my best friend decided she wanted and couldn’t conceive, I might consider making the offer if the Boy was okay with it.