(Closed) Egg Donation

posted 9 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Would you donate your eggs?

    No way!

    Absolutely!

    If the compensation was good enough.

    Only for a family member or friend.

    Other: I will explain below.

  • Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    No. I would only consider it for siblings but even that I’m not sure about. Thank god all our siblings are done so that won’t ever be a issue!

    I don’t like the thought that there could be kids of mine out there that I don’t know about.

    Post # 32
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I can’t, but I would if I could for family or really close friends. I wouldn’t do it for compensation or for strangers, I don’t think, because it’s such an invasive process I’d have to get at least something personally from it (like helping someone I KNOW) as selfish as that sounds.

    I’ve had friends offer to do it for me, and my mom (only in her 40s) said she would do it for me if she could.

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    I would definitely donate eggs for my sister, but that’s it.  I would want to keep the genetics in the family, and she’s my only sibling. 

    As I’ve gone through IVF and had a good response and no bad reactions to the meds and procedures, it makes it easier for me to feel confident about doing it.  But I would probably want to do the donation with the same practice and protocols used in my own cycle.

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I would in a hot second.  Having struggled with infertility and going through all the emotions, if I could help another couple out, I would in a heart beat.  I have PCOS and therefore have a higher ovarian reserve that most women my age (my mom says I’m an egg hoarder), so I have plenty to spare.  With having had to think about egg donation, sperm donation, or even adoption I’ve come to the conclusion that it doesn’t matter where the baby comes from, as long as there is a baby at the end of the day, and if I can give that to a couple who wouldn’t have one otherwise, then I absolutely would.

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I just would not feel comfortable having a biological child out there and not knowing them. 

    Post # 36
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    1773 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’d be fine with it. Money is great, helping people is great. I wouldn’t pass the background check though.

     

    I really don’t care if someone is running around with half my genetics. Whatever. It’s not like I’d be their mother. I’m not really all that attatched to my DNA to begin with. 

    Post # 38
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    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2004

    I have done it. It is not something one does for money, though I dont know if it works differently in the states. I had the opportunity to help a couple who wanted a child by donating biological material that goes to waste down the drain every month anyway. It is not something to be taken lightly, as it is an extended process which involves psychiatric assessments, top to toe medical examinations which are extremely invasive. Over here there is not a large financial reward, my travelling was more than the reimbursement for expenses but i expect that some people will do it for money and that i dont agree with. It is an extremely intensive process and you have to inject yourself with hormones, etc, so really not something to be taken lightly. My donation resulted in a healthy set of pigeon pair twins being born in ireland and it is great knowing that the wonderful recipient and her husband are now parents to their two gorgeous babies that they prayed for and sacrificed so much for to have. Here in south africa it is an extremely strict process that is followed and the doctors and staff at the fertility clinics are excellent and they make sure that both the recipients and donors are well informed and especially that the donors arent just trying to make some money, because you really cant on what you get paid over here.

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have two girlfriends who have done this. I believe one is on her 5th or 6th time and the other is on her 2nd. One does it 100% for money (her own words) and the other does it for money but really likes the idea of helping others become a mom, she’s a mom herself & a great one at that!

    I never realized how much went into it until these two girls opened up to me. The girl who has done it many more times has basically no side effectes besides minor bloating. The other friend was in severe pain by the time it came for the egg retreival and had to come clean to her parents (she’s 30 yrs old) on what she was doing and had her mom drive her the Dr. appt.

    Both girls are in MA and get about $7-$8k each time plus a few extra hundred for mileage etc.

    Me, I wouldn’t do it unless a VERY close friend or family member asked. Just not my thing. I wonder how or if laws etc will be change in the next 18 yrs. If they get 12 eggs, could I possibly have 12 kids looking for their egg donor mom in 18 years? One Girlfriend has given consent for her info be given to the child if ever requested. The other one who does it more for the love of kids & family has kept in touch with some of  the parents who received her donation, but she’s never mentioned anything about the child.

    I think it should be something done souly for the purpose of bettering someone else’s life and not for money. But I wouldn’t expect the donor to acquire and pay for the medical procedure and all that leads up to it.

     

    Post # 40
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Also my GF’s who have donated passed all the tests etc but then they were chosen by the couple (they described it sorta kinda like a catalogue situation). One Girlfriend is BEAUTIFUL and has been chosen more times than she could donate. The other friend said that she thinks she was was chosen by the couples b/c she looked similar to them/mom. They were both told that they could donate after the age of 30, but their chances of being chosen drops drastically.

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No, I definitely wouldn’t for ethical/religious reasons.

    Post # 42
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    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2004

    I think it works differently in different countries. Over here all possible donors are screened and go through a stringent process which starts off by completing a detailed application, very, very detailed and complete medical history including medical history of the parents and grandparents.  Really, really detailed. If you make it through this, there is a telephonic interview. Then there is an in person interview with a trained counciller. Then you go through a full battery of medical tests, from a full physical and gynaelogical work up to chest xrays and full bloodwork, etc.  all of this over a period of several weeks.  Once you cleared all the medical tests, you have an interview with a psychologist to establish whether you are indeed mentally and emotionally fit to deal with this and to check whether you understand the process. Inbetween this you also chat to the doctors who have prodded and tested you. They make one hundred percent sure you know what you are doing. Then, once you are cleared, you provide photos of yourself and if you have biological kids, your kids. You are only allowed to give photos up to 12years of age. No adult photos. The profile is created with a pseudonymn and contains all your biological information, academic information, personality inormation, etc.  This is only available to prospective recipients. The prospective recipients never know the real name of their potential donor, but the case worker tries to match the right recipient with the right donor.  In my case the couple in question could not have kids due to the woman having cancer in her teens and treatment making her infertile. She was in complete remission, however, for 15 years. They started off with looking for matching physical traits in a donor. Once that was narrowed down to options they reviewed the inellectual and personality info. Then it is narrowed down to two or three possible donors and the caseworker will contact these potential donors again and ultimately caseworker will then advise which donor, in adulthood, shares the most physical similaities. After this whole process the recipient makes a decision  and the donor is informed and has to go through another appoinment with a gynae and a psychologist. Only after the match is confirmed does he actual procedure kick off and this involves synchronising cycles, etc

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I wish I could say that I would, but I just would not be comfortable doing so. Firstly, it’s really hard on your body, and apparently there are strong links to things like increased risk for breast and ovarian cancers down the road. Also, I wouldn’t be able to stand knowing I had a biological child out there I didn’t know, and I’m not sure if it would be better or worse if it went to a close family member and I had to watch my biological child be raised by someone else. We aren’t done having children of our own, so using up an egg when I have a set amount and still plan to use them doesn’t make sense. Also, DH is firmly against it–he feels uncomfortable with a child of mine and another man’s existing, and I totally respect that.

    Post # 45
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I might for the money or for a friend if I could, but I haven’t looked into the side effects enough to say if it’s worth it. Alas, my ovaries are screwed up so if anything I’d be asking someone else for the eggs :p

    Post # 46
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’d do it, but it makes me feel sorry for all the kids out there who need adopted, and I think that would make me feel guilty if I ever donated.

    Also, Fiance doesn’t want me to.

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