Post # 1
So far hubby and I have had exactly 18 days alone together since our August 7th wedding and that includes the honeymoon. My brother had lost his job the week of our honeymoon and was homeless so he was waiting for us when we got back from the honeymoon!
He HAD been looking for a job, but he’s picky and 57, not a good combo. NOW he needs surgery for a double hernia and has been declared temporaily disabled by the state.And he just told me that he has other health problems that will require specialists. In other words, there is no end in sight.
Now I’m not about to toss him out when he is sick and it’s the coldest time of the year. Apparently no one else in the family can afford to keep him or can tolerate him.
I know he is probably as unhappy as we are about the situation. We live in a really tiny house (I’ve lived in bigger apts). I try to be understanding and sympathic, but some days I get so mad of being cheated out of our newlywed period that I could seriously scream!
Post # 3
Does he get disability income from the government because of this? If he hasn’t looked into it, he should since that might help him to get on his feet and maybe go away! You are such a good sister for not kicking him out! I don’t know if I could stand it! (Though I’m an only child so I have little tolerance for people sometimes!)
Post # 4
awwwww im sorry thats happening to you and your family.
I would suggest saving up and going for another honeymoon bring back that newlywed period, it will also give you something to look forward too when times get alot more tough!
Hang in there!
Post # 5
Maybe you guys can coordinate nights that he has plans (like going to the movies) so you and you hubby have a planned couple hours to yourself in the house??
Or maybe someone else in the family could have him over for a weekend so you guys can get a weekend break?
Talk to your family and say “Hey, we’re willing to help him out – but just a little bit here and there by you guys would make things a lot easier for us” Maybe they could invite him over for dinner every Wednesday night so you and your hubby can have that night to yourselves every week?
You guys are awesome for helping him out like this! (What a great hubby you haeve too!) I can understand the stress though.
Post # 6
I’m really sorry you’re going through that! I can’t even imagine how frustrated you are… I’m wondering the same thing as MissAsB, does he get disability? If he does, maybe he can save enough that by the time the weather warms up, he can find his own place. You are truly kind hearted for allowing him to stay with you.
Post # 7
Ugh, that really stinks! I’d check on the disability thing for sure. It’s definintely not fair that you’re expected to keep him, especially since you’re a newleywed! Not only do you get less time with your new husband, but I’m sure it’s costing you money!
Post # 8
I’d definitely check on getting him enrolled on disability benefits, also you can claim him as a dependent- though I would look into exactly how with your taxes. Until he gets better I sympathize with you and hope he gets better soon!