(Closed) Eighteen Kids and Counting wedding- AWKWARD!

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Why is that awkward?

ETA, not sure of your sexual preference, but as an FYI, Fiancee is for women and Fiance is for men.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@brideatbeach: I don’t know on this board, but I know on others that I’m on, there are many different people from many different backgrounds. I’m just saying, it’s a little insensitive to make fun of someone who has different traditions than you. There is actually a good percent of the world who still believes in/utilizes arranged marriages, along with a greater percent of people who believe that many topics (like what happens in the bedroom) are not appropriate to discuss before marriage.(Not trying to lecture, I’ve just seen feelings hurt and people afraid to post because of threads like this).

ETA, I would probably seem awkward too, can you imagine all the things they both must be feeling and worrying about? They’re about to start life together, they have to have sex which the girl has probably been told its painful, they’ve never kissed or probably even been alone together, it’s gotta be nerve-wracking.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I think that, in this day and age where so many people sleep together and kiss before even getting engaged, that the Duggar wedding could be seen as awkward.  I think the most awkward parts for me were the first kiss and video. 

Most couples who marry have, at the very least, kissed before getting engaged.  I cannot imagine experiencing my first kiss ever in my life at the altar in front of a ton of people.  I remember how awkward I felt when I got my first kiss and I can’t imagine having lots of people watch that!  I’m NOT saying that this couple was wrong for not kissing before their wedding … but saying that the first kiss (esp. if they’ve never kissed anyone else) could come off really awkward! 

The video.  I honestly would rather stumble my way through things than watch that video with my new groom.  And I would hope that they both have some idea of what to expect sexually!  My first time was his (my now DH) first time, too.  We had a basic knowledge of sexual intercourse but it was a lot of fumbling, etc.  I’d rather do that than watch a video with him on what I could expect.  I would honestly love to get my hands on that video to see what they talk about!!! 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You do realize there is a thing called video and sound editing, right? We don’t know if they were listening to that tape or just enjoying the quiet on their way home from the wedding.

As an aside, they have a 1 or 1.5 year old now and they are completly “normal” for their lifestyle and as a couple. Just because it’s different doesn’t mean it’s weird, awkward, or up for jokes. It’s just different. Also, they’ve known eachother a long time, only they decided to “court” instead of date. Their families have known eachother for years.

Anyhow, if you search the boards there was a really long thread about the Duggar wedding if you’re curious as to others thoughts.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

@brideatbeach: I added an ETA to my post, it would be an interesting topic to discuss, but I just don’t blame them for feeling awkward 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Adding that, if I had cameras rolling and knew all of this would be on national tv, I know that I would be feeling extremely awkward at my first kiss and while I was a virgin watching a tape on how to be intimate with my partner on the ride to my wedding night locale!!  And it would totally show! 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@brideatbeach: Whatever. I’m totally with you. The Duggars, in general, are an awkward spectical. It’s why there’s a show about them. If they were ‘normal’ or just had a slight differences everyone should accept and embrace, they wouldn’t have a freaking show on TLC.

They were on SYTTD in season 4 and they are soooooo awkward. The dad suggested poofy sleeves for the dress and the mother’s voice is unnaturally high-pitched, like she’s more innocent and modest if she squeaks like a field mouse.

I haven’t seen the wedding episode, but I can imagine exactly how awkward it was. And really? A tape about having sex? Yikes. Even if you’re on the ‘we just hold hands ’til marriage’ boat I’m pretty sure two adults should know what to do and not have their father explain it to them. When you’re 10? Sure. When you’re a married adult? NO.

On the bright side, at least they’ve let the girls update their wardrobe. I saw their story on TLC like 5 years ago before there was a show and all of the girls wore high-necked flowy dresses that had big lace collars. Again. Awkward is the spectacle that got them a show. Occasionally I wonder if it’s all just an act for TV.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@artichokey: you took the words right out of my mouth!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I think tihs is how they really are.  I remember when they had about a dozen kids, there was an article on them in some ladies magazine and they were really the same way.  I want to say that Oprah or someone also had them on long before they had 19 kids and I saw them back then, too.  I always remember thinking it wasn’t fair to the older kids who had to do an awful lot to help raise the little ones.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

What I can’t imagine is getting “the talk” from a TAPE on my WEDDING DAY. That’s plenty awkward IMO, no matter who you are.

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