Post # 1
For this Christmas my husband and I are thinking about buying some of our family members the electronic cigarette starter kits. However, we’re a little nervous that some might not like/use them, or might find the gift weird or offensive? Most of them are constantly complaining about the cost and health issues, but aren’t able to break the habit.
What do you think?
Post # 3
I don’t smoke but thinking about the people I know who do smoke, I don’t think they would like it. It almost feels a little preachy to me.
Post # 4
I have tried them and do really like them, however I would be offended if someone gave it to me for Christmas. It’s a very personal decision to quit and extremely hard if you aren’t ready (even if you complain). It’s even harder when people push you when you aren’t ready.
Post # 5
@givemecouture: I agree it seems preachy. The thoughtfullness and intent is good, but I feel like there’s lot of potential to offend.
Post # 6
@bdockery: Not sure. Are they expensive? I wouldn’t give it to them as their only gift. I think they might not take it too well, though. It’s basically a huge hint to quit smoking and kinda presumptuous. I don’t smoke, but if someone got me a gift that was a big hint, I might be upset.
Like here’s a new vacuum you didn’t ask for… you need to clean more. He’s a gym membership… you’re fat. Etc.
Unless they’ve tried everything and asked for your help, it might be a bit embarrassing to open, I don’t know. Are they the types that have a good sense of humor?
Post # 7
@WhiteWedding: Great insight.
OP, I don’t think it’s an appropriate Christmas gift, especially if the intended recipient hasn’t remarked about wanting one. If someone said, “Oh I’d love to try that” when an ad came on, that’s one thing…but aside from that, I think it’s a bit rude.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s an appropriate Christmas gift. It’d be like giving someone a bathroom scale or a workout video if they’d mentioned trying to lose weight. These are very personal issues and it’s one thing to say you want to quit smoking, and a whole other thing to be ready to do it. Until you’re actually ready and actually ask for help, anyone giving you those tools, no matter how well-intentioned, runs a high risk of being percieved as overstepping.
Post # 9
Yes, they all definitely have a great sense of humor and I don’t think they would be embarressed or even insulted … but as a present, as most of you had said it could seem kind of pushy or even annoying. A few have talked about them and how they would like to try them, but again maybe I should let them make that decision? I’m not sure. My husband is really for it, but I’m on the edge.
@canarydiamond: Good idea though, not as their only gift. More like a here I know you wanted to try this and figured I would get it for you but not as your main present.