Post # 1
Since this is my first and hopefully only wedding, I am not sure how electronic rsvping works. I am concerned about getting confused as to whether the people are rsvp’d if some people rsvp online while others rsvp in the mail. What are the advantages and what are the disadvantages of electronic rsvping?
Post # 2
We are going to do electronic only. I think it’s just easier. Less waste, less likelihood of being filled out but then sitting in a mail pile until it gets forgotten about, and less likelihood of getting lost in transit.
Whether you do paper invitations or electronic, you can just have a link on the invitation for them to RSVP at.
Post # 3
vgrimes93 : We did paper invites, which let guests know to RSVP via our website. If you don’t include the option to RSVP via mail, then they won’t and there will be no confusion as it’ll all be online.
We did this because we didn’t trust everyone would get around to snail mailing their responses to us, and stuff gets lost in the mail (Several of our invitations did!).
Post # 4
We gave our guests the option to rsvp by mail or online. Only 2 chose to rsvp online. We used withjoy.com. It has a really great option for online rsvps. I ended up recording all of our paper rsvps on the site as well so that they were all in one place.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
We’re doing online only, but writing on the wedding website that if people get confused they can certainly just call us to RSVP.
ETA: We are using withjoy.com too and it works very well.
Post # 6
I’ve just asked everyone to email me. This is probably the height of rude but it seemed to me in my blissful ignorance, lovely and simple.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
vgrimes93 : I am doing paper and mail for my invitations. For me, I just prefer to it electronic and I feel it add’s an air of formality to the event. I am really trying to convey the formality of my event, as I have a number of out of towners coming who will likely not be expecting the level of formality due to where they are from.
However, from a guest perpective, as I was one to a wedding that did electronic invites and RSVPs earlier this year, I can say there was only onw or two things that really bothered me about it:
1. The Bride & Grrom did not BCC everyone on the invite list, nor did they send each email individually. They sent a mass email and CC’d EVERYONE. So everyone invited to the wedding was listed in the email recipients. I was not pleased they just gave everyone each others emails.
2. Due to the fact that they sent a mass email, the emaisl were not individually addressed, which caused a lot of confusion for my fiance and I. We were unsure if we were both invited, just my fiance or my fiance and a guest. I was worried about being invited because the Bride went to highschool with my fiance, but her and I have never really gotten along and I was genuinely surprised we received an invite at all!
3. This isn’t really an issue for me, probably more-so for the bride and the way she did the rsvp’s but the rsvp was trhough their wedding website and the drop down menu allowed for +1, +2 & +3 if you were attending. Which means it seemed like she was offering everyone the option to bring multiple guests. I feel like it was a little confusing as a guest since nothing was personally addressed and I imagine it may have caused some headaches for the bride.
4. My last thing that I thought was just kind of weird, was because they did online invitations and rsvps they had to contact everyone who they did not have an address for after the fact to send thank you cards. I thought it was strange they decided after the wedding to do paper and mail cards. Though I did approve since I much prefer paper and mail, especially for thank you cards.
Post # 8
My mother-in-law made up paper invites for our party, but also made an email account for guests to RSVP to. In confirmation, she included what attire would be like, so everyone knew what they could wear. Our RSVP’s were actually really great. There were just a few people we had to track down.
Post # 9
We did email and phone. It’s easier and no wasted postage. It worked well.
Post # 10
When we got married in 2016, I sent out a RSVP card with 3 options to RSVP: call/text, email, or through our wedding website. It went over really well. We still had a little bit of extra paper for the cards, but we didn’t have to spend extra money for RSVP envelopes or stamps.
Post # 11
We did both and I kept a spreadsheet. It was easy.
Post # 12
We are doing electronic RSVP. It will only be confusing for five people, who all have the EXACT FIRST AND LAST NAME OMG.
What I’m going to do for those five people is include with their specific invites to RSVP under a specific name so that The Knot can take that name and apply it to the right person. If you have 5 people with the name John Doe, one John Doe could acidentally RSVP for him and the other John Doe’s wife and kids. Oops. So hopefully adding in middle names and emphasizing to RSVP with that middle name will be agood fix 🙂
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME
We’re doing paper invites with a wedding website RSVP. We’re using The Knot, and the only issue I really have so far is that you can’t add multiple meal course options. We’re having a plated dinner with a choice of soup or salad, and two entree options. It looks cluttered have four options just to be able to state whether or not they want a soup or salad with the meal.
My mom RSVPed and said it was really easy though! We are having a smaller wedding so it works, but I don’t know if I’d want to do online only if it were over 100 people.
Post # 14
We’re using Appy couple and electronic RSVP is just easier for us and saves extra postage we just included a business card with the details.
Post # 15
We did electronic only and it was magically easy. No maintenance or worry about missing things, and then you can also offer important info about the event on the same website.
We did also offer the option of email for the less technologically inclined – but only one couple in their 80s used it. At least with email you have an electronic paper trail to refer back to.