Post # 1
We would like to send out our save the dates soon, but I know it can be a headache to get everyone’s mailing address in a short amount of time, so we were thinking of sending an electronic one. We don’t have anyone super old-fashioned who is invited, but just wondering would you think it’s tacky if you got one? Or just a nice way to let everyone know the date/location while saving paper!?
We will definitely be sending out paper invitations, just wondering about the save the dates.
Post # 3
I think it’s fine for the Save-The-Date Cards, since they aren’t really a requirement to begin with.
Post # 4
We used an online card system (Jacquie Lawson) that does gorgeous, artistic cards. Save-The-Date Cards are not all that common in our crowd anyway, so it’s not like there’s an established etiquette for us in terms of Save-The-Date Cards, or any expectation that they’re printed or anything. Everyone was thrilled to know when to expect the invitation, so it served its purpose. Plus, with online you have the advantage of people easily replying if they won’t be able to make it, so you can drop them from the invite list.
Post # 5
We sent out ours via email since we live overseas from our family/friends. I think it’s just fine!
Post # 6
There is nothing old fashioned about save the dates – they only came to exist a few years ago! How could it be tacky, therefore, to send tem out electronially? Actually, a lot of people are really consfused by save the dates since they are so formal but aren’t an invitation.
Here’s an idea for you – use your electronic save the dates as a way to collect all of your addresses! Include a link to a google form and ask people to respond to the form with their address.
Post # 7
Not at all tacky. I chose to do paper ones just because all the paper aspects of the wedding are my favourite part, and I already knew which picture I wanted to use for the save-the-dates before I was even engaged! But I totally get doing them electronically (using them as a way to collect addresses is a great idea!) or even not doing them at all. I do think that doing invitations electronically is a little bit of a cop-out. Sure people can say ‘oh we wanted to be green and save paper’ and whatnot, but really – there are so few moments in life now when we get lovely things in the mail. Why take that away from weddings! Our friends and family were so pleased to get our invitations.
Post # 8
I think they are practical and can be really fun! The best online Save the Dates are videos or some other media that does more than paper can.
Post # 9
I like online Save-The-Date Cards better because it’s easier to add the date to your calendar instantly. When I get them in the mail, they often get misplaced for a while before I remember to add them.
Post # 10
I had the same question! I think they are practical as our wedding is still almost a year away we would like to give people a heads up to arrange time off and their summer holidays. However, we will be sending paper ones to those who don’t have a computer i.e. my grandparents. We got all of family addresses from my parents and his parents, but will be including address inquiry for some of our friends (as sadly no one send letter anymore). I like the idea above about doing some sort of video!!! That is unique and you could put it on your wedding website as well (if you are doing one).
Post # 11
I chose other. I did this because I do not regularly check My email. I would be very annoyed. This is probably just me though. Do what’s right for you! 🙂
Post # 12
thanks for all the comments. I think we’ll go with the electronic ones. and cbgg your idea about using it to collect addresses is GENIUS!
Post # 13
i did them b/c we were out of the country. i hope no one thought it was tacky with me doing them like that. it was really that or nothing.
Post # 14
We’re skipping Save the Dates and doing electronic invitations (for everyone except grandparents). It’s a bit risky but our guestlist is only 60 people so I have no problem following up with people over the phone 🙂
Post # 15
@cbgg: Agreed! I think our guests were totally confused by our paper STD’s. I think they thought they were the invitation. We had a few RSVP on the wedsite…although I didn’t even know they could do that yet :/
Electronic is modern, environmentally friendly and totally not tacky!
Post # 16
We totally did electronic save the dates, with paper invitations and it all worked out really nicely for us. Plus, you can help save a tree! 🙂