Post # 1
I need some advice & opinions on this situation right now. I got married in April and a good friend of mine a few months later. Between the two of us we wrote maybe 400 thank you’s and afterwards we had this thought.
Instead of writing all of these by hand…what’s the harm in writing some – not all – by email.
Hear me out first 🙂
It would not be a montage of copy & paste of the same message…it would be super personal and then send the person a few photos of them at the wedding.
Sure, we can’t do this for everyone – we all have that family member who expects the handwritten note and of course, the older crowd who may not be as tech savy. But in this day & age of mostly everyone having a PDA I’m really curious what’s the harm?
Any opinions on this matter will help 🙂
Post # 3
I personally don’t see anything wrong with it. It’s extra special to receive a hand-written letter through snail mail, but I don’t think it’s rude to send email thank yous.
Post # 4
That’s a negative Ghost-rider. I’m assuming you want to know the correct etiquette on the situation, which would be hand addressed and personal hand written notes to each guest thanking them for their gift. If they can take the time to go shopping and get you something, you can take the time to write them a note. I know it adds up though! Even in “this day and age”, proper etiquette is alive and well, I’d be pretty offended if I got a “thank you” email.
If you want to email pictures, you can do that separately.
Post # 5
Personally, I really enjoy receiving a handwritten thank you in the mail. I don’t know how you’d divy up who to email and who to send a note to.
Post # 6
I think there are very few occasions that require hand written notes – weddings are one of them. I think an email would be nice to recieve with photos but I’d still want a proper note.
It’s one of this nice traditions to hold on to in the age of instant communication. Handwritten notes take time and forethought – I think it’s important to show that you care enough about your guests to put in that extra effort.
Post # 7
I receive so little “real” mail that the hand written thank yous really mean a lot. I usually hang them on my fridge for a few weeks/months and then keep them.
The best was the thank you I received for a wedding I was it. It was a handwritten note with actual printed photos of me and my Fiance in it.
E-mail is better than nothing at all, but it really wouldn’t feel as heart felt to me.
Post # 8
If somebody sent me an email thank you, I wouldn’t be offended but it would sure mean a lot more if they took the time to mail me a card. I would even prefer a typed and mailed card over a email. I don’t think it’s rude to email, but the gesture of a thank you card seems more genuine when it’s done old school through the mail.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t be offended by an e-mail thank you but I wouldn’t be excited about it either. In this day and age its nice to receive something special in the mail rather than through your email and I think it just shows more thought and consideration.
Post # 10
I really do like the idea of the personal note and the pictures included. That being said, I have to agree with other posters, a wedding gift thank you note is something that needs to be handwritten.
Post # 11
Despite being a tech savy 23 year old, I’d be hurt and a little offended to recieve a thank you from a wedding via email. You guests spent a lot of time and money on a gift for you and to attend your wedding. IMO the LEAST you can do is spend a couple of minutes hand-writing them a note. There is honestly no excuse not to in my mind.
Post # 12
Although I don’t think this is a bad idea.
I’m still in the park of handwritten notes. I think the reason we appreciate them is because we know the time it took to write it, typing is fast and just isn’t as personal as a hand written note.
So although not a bad idea, I think it makes the “thank you” less personal.
Post # 13
If someone took the time and effort to go out of their way and buy you a gift or write out a check, I think you need to take the time and effort to hand write a thank you note.
No matter what you do, everyone is going to assume that this is a cut-and-paste type email.
Did you send your invitations (STDs, shower invites and wedding invites) by email? If not, then I wouldn’t send thank you notes that way.
Post # 14
@BanditGirl: I agree. Its the least you can do.
There’s something fun and very charming about getting a handwritten thank you in the mail. Not so much with an e-mail. Evrything about e-mail screams quick, convenient and impersonal. It just doesn’t suggest real gratitude the way a hand written card does.
If someone has taken the time to attend your wedding and get you a gift, the least you can do is thank them properly.
Post # 15
Three quarters of the time I don’t even see emails people send me. They get lost in the vast majority of junk that I receive every day. I think this is one area that makes weddings stand out from other events, so I would keep with the mailed Thank Yous.
Post # 16
While I think the idea of sending some photos via email is great, I think that a handwritten note, even a teeny tiny one, is the way to go.