Post # 1
I know this is not rrally eloping but here’s my story
My dad gave me 10,000 for my wedding. I have Ben with my fi for almost 7 years we have a newborn and a 3 year old. I can’t bring myself to spend my dads money. Thts his savings or part of it and even though he says use it and think nothing of it I can’t! I keep thinking after all is said and done his money will bE gone and the “party” will be over.
I am thinking of going to Tahoe about 4 hours away with my fi our boys my parents and siblings my fi patents and siblings and our very close friends so about 30 people. All I really want is to wear my dress and marry on the beach.
But then what do we do after the ceremony? I feel we all can’t just go back to our hotel and go our separate ways but then looking in to resturants it gets expensive because it’s a “wedding”
Anyone have any ideas? I’m thinking maybe rent a big cabin and just have people go there after and eat and hang out. But then again that could get pricy too.
Help pretty please
Post # 3
Have the ceremony in tahoe, take everyone out for dinner and then leaves your kids with the family and spend the night alone. Next day spend time with your family and then go your seperate ways. Weddings are pricey, even small ones, but you have to feed people you invite, it would probably be a $1000 most to feed everyone which isn’t that much.
Post # 4
The idea of renting a cabin and having some drinks, and some music sounds so romantic and intimate. I think thats a great idea. I don’t know what the prices would be but you can prepare some salads and sandwiches and oven appies, which wouldn’t really be very expensive at all. And then of course beverages, but I think all that can be done for uner 500 bucks, and then you just have to worry about the cost of the cabin, which I am also assuming wouldn’t be very expensive for one night.
Post # 6
It is proper to host a reception after your ceremony as it is a thank you to the guests who came to share your wedding. That being said- nobody ever said it has to be a full dinner with an open bar. You can do an earlier wedding ceremony & have a brunch or lunch reception, or have your ceremony at a non-meal time and just have appetizers, beer, and wine.
Check with local restaurants and hotels and ask if they have any options for an early meal or snacks at a non-meal time. Also, check with rental companies about renting a tent, tables, chairs, and linens and have your reception on the beach.
As for not spending your dad’s money, he wants you to have it and use it or he wouldn’t have given it to you! You don’t have to spend all of it, but maybe see what you can come up with budget-wise and either give the rest back to him (or if he won’t accept it, start a college savings fund for the boys). Best of luck!