(Closed) Elope followed by Celebration later?

posted 4 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
Member
680 posts
Busy bee

That’s quite a gap of time. I went to a celebration once where the couple had been legally married for almost 5 yrs. It was weird, not going to lie. They treated it like a wedding reception, as if the wedding had happened a few hours prior rather than 5 yrs before, rather than a vow renewal or anything, so it was odd. I would suggest having a vow renewal and celebration since you will have a couple years time in between.

Post # 5
Hostess
11328 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@EternalRomance74: I don’t think it really matters, it’s what’s important to the two of you. How about rather than thinking of it as time inbetween, think of it as one longer occasion 😉

Edit, forgot to say, I think it’s a very good idea. Do the important bit first with a select few then the big celebration later after saving

Post # 6
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2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think it would be fine if you treated the 2016 celebration like an anniversary party.

But if you’re wanting to wear a wedding gown, have bridesmaids, do the bouquet toss and all the typical wedding fanfare… that would be extremely weird two years into your marriage.

Post # 10
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452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ll be honest – I think that is too long of a gap between your legal marriage and your ceremony/reception. If I were invited to such an event I would it was weird and (frankly) a bit indulgent. I know people tend to be fairly split on this matter on this forum though, so you’ll likely hear both sides of it.

 

Post # 11
Hostess
11328 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@EternalRomance74: I’d have loved to be able to draw out my wedding, as it all goes so fast. Would be good to have more than one day to look forward to. 

Post # 12
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3057 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@medbride:  I think I agree with this.

I think it’s too long to just call it a reception or celebration of the wedding. If you want to do a vow renewal after 2 years, that would be much better but vow renewals that are exactly like weddings are to me quite ridiculous. I’d wear an off white non wedding dress, have it a bit more casual, and not do most of the typical wedding stuff or if I did, it would be at a toned down level (yes I would certainly have a cake!!! But not a huge 5 tiered white bewjeweled cake). Just my view.

Post # 13
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My husband and I are doing this. We eloped April this year and are having a wedding with our families in 2015. I don’t think you have to label it a vow renewal if you don’t want to. We are having a formal catholic wedding and are calling it a wedding even though we are already married. It’s up to you, and honestly whatever you decide will be perfect. 🙂 

Also, I’ll be wearing a full blown wedding gown, I’ll have bridesmaids and a big ol’ cake. It’s your wedding, do it up however you feel comfortable and don’t feel you have to pass up the traditions because its ‘improper.’ 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s hard to say without knowing your friends or family but I like to think that most people would show up to celebrate their friends’ marriage, since it sounds like most won’t be able to join you on the day. And saving up to be able to host a bigger group of people (and not asking for gifts) clearly says it is about you wanting to celebrate with friends and family, not about a gift grab.

We got married in March at City Hall with only our parents and 2 friends to witness (legal/immigration reasons).  I wore a fit and flare knee length dress and DH wore a suit.

Like you and your FI, we also missed having everyone there and told friends & familiy we’d like them to attend a celebration of our marriage in Sept. They have been great, many coming from New Zealand, the UK and Canada. It’ll be the only time all 3 of our ‘worlds (NZ, Canada, US/UK) will be all in one room so we are really looking forward to it. We have told everyone we are not registering or asking for gifts.

I’ll be wearing a floor length gown but it’s not a traditional wedding dress.  DH will also wear a suit. 

One thing we thought was interesting: We were debating about having a ceremony or not since we are already married, but a lot of our friends/family have indicated they think it would be great, so we probably will.

 

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think people tend to think it odd when you have a reception or wedding celebration so far after the actual marriage. I would call it an anniversary celebration if you don’t plan on doing any wedding type stuff anyways.

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