(Closed) Elope?? Long but I need reassurance!

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think that sounds like a wonderful idea.  If this is going to save you from all the drama that having a traditional wedding is going to cause then I say go for it!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Welcome Caitlyn!

I would like to say I think there is nothing wrong with your mother not giving you any money.  I believe the couple should pay for their own wedding.

I have a very dramatic mother too, and our relationship is strained as well. 

I think your intimate wedding sounds absolutely perfect!  I did have a full wedding planned as well, and we cancelled the venue/caterer/officiant just last month.  I am really starting to believe elopements/intimate weddings are just so right because they have to don’t cost an arm and a leg, they are about the couple, nearly all the money spent goes to the couple and the decisions that are made are with the couple in mind.

Not all weddings turn out like Father of the Bride and other movies where the parents are so happy, people cry for you, gah!  It’s not like that with my family, and like you, by just not having them there will make life 100x less stressful!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Usually if you pay for your own wedding, you do not have to take into consideration anyone else’s input (if you don’t want to) and you get full control – bonus!  So if she does try to squawk at you, you can change the subject, ask her to refrain share her opinion since she wasn’t asked, or just leave the room!

Sometimes we have to recognize that our mothers are unhealthy, and they won’t ever be the person we want them to.  Sadly I’m starting to realize this with my mother.  It helps by not getting your feelings hurt so much, you lower your expectations. My two sisters each had a baby, so I know where you are coming from.

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