- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
My father came out with it and told me that he would come to my wedding but support me? no. He wouldn’t even offer to help pay for anything, not even a tablecloth. He’s been bashing my fh since day one and my mother doesn’t back me up because she doesn’t want to upset my dad. My fh parents are not married and never were, and they live in Texas while me and the fh live in Wisconsin. At first I planned a small wedding with immediate family and having his family fly here for the ceremony and dinner a nice restauruant but with my dad dissaproving I don’t know if it’d just be easier to elope? I asked my mom’s feelings on the subject because she means the world to me and she wants me to be happy, plus she has 3 other daughters to look foreward too. The other things is my parents are not emotional, I’ve never seen my dad cry and my mom perhaps once. I can’t even remember the last time I hugged my dad, my mother and I just started hugging but only when leaving. So there would be no sappy father daughter dance or my mother crying tears of happiness or my dad excidly giving me away but I’ve always dreamed of the weddings in movies, the groom with tears in his eyes, the adorable flowergirls, my dad hugging me before giving me away. I don’t know what to expect if my parents are invited to my wedding, so I thought eloping would be easier just me and him no worries about my unsupportive dad or young children crying or me fighting with my oldest sister. I’m sorry about the long post/rant but I’m so confused on what to do! Elope or not…?