(Closed) Elope? Small ceremony big party? Small ceremony no party? Ugh help!!

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What ceremony/reception should I have?!

    Small ceremony with cake & punch reception

    Small ceremony with reception at local restauraunt

    Small ceremony and big reception with everyone within the year

  • Post # 3
    295 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Since the big wedding doesn’t seem to matter, if I understood right, I voted for the small ceremony and dinner at a restaurant. But, if the party does matter, I would still do a bigger reception later on when you have more of a budget to work with, so you can meet your in-laws and celebrate. Our original plan was to do it that way, but the big wedding meant a lot to Fiance, so we decided to wait and save up more money to do the traditional thing.

    Post # 4
    1 posts
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I know it’s been a while since you posted, but definetly go with your gut! A large party/reception can become expensive quickly, and if you keep it smaller, you can share it with the people who mean the most instead of your mother’s high school friend that you’ve met a few times.  I hope it’s going well!

    Post # 5
    203 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I know exactly what you are going thru…

    I orig. wanted to elope this winter. Just me and Him. Then have a super nice dinner and have the night all to ourselves.Then we were going to have a backyard party the following spring/summer.

    Well…The families flipped. I’m the only girl in my family and my fiance is the youngest in his family… So a traditional wedding it is!! grrr.


    For you i will recommend the tiny church ceremony with a dersert/cocktail party after 7pm. I think that would be really special. Plus ALL of your friends and famly will be able to celebrate with you.

    Post # 6
    11 posts
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Well I can honestly say I completely understand what your going through.  This is what we have decided to do

    Small ceremony which is going to be immediate family only (25) and then a sit down dinner after with just immediate family.

    The next day we have having a sort of Family reunion get togther as a reception that everyone can attend.  We will show up in our wedding gear and we are saving our cake cutting for that day.  This way we get to please everyone.

    The way I see it they should be happy…at least your not eloping! 

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