(Closed) eloped 1 month ago.should we have a reception or a vowe renewal ceremony

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
  • poll: should i have a reception or vow renewal ceremony 1 year from our elopement date
    reception : (21 votes)
    45 %
    vow renewal ceremony : (3 votes)
    6 %
    anniversary party : (8 votes)
    17 %
    nothing.just move on : (11 votes)
    23 %
    who cares what other people think. : (4 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I vote anniversary party on your 1 year anniversary only if you BOTH really want it.  Or just move on.


    We have considered an anniversary party – but for many reasons it’s just not a good idea logistically.  If everyone were local that’s a different story.

    Now we’re just moving on and I’m happy with that!


    Save the big vow renewal for your 10 year or something, but that’s just me.


    Is your H being cool about it?  He was very adamant about having nothing right?




    Post # 4
    317 posts
    Helper bee

    @rozzy:  In my experience, we tried to plan for a reception to take place after the elopement but people still gave us a hard time since they wouldn’t be at the wedding or whatever they’re problem was so I agree only to do it if you want it and not for others. I would also do a wedding reception because a vow renewal seems too soon and anniversary party may seem less important to people. A heard that receptions can be done up to a year after the elopement but I could be wrong. Good luck, I hope it works out for you two! 





    Post # 8
    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @rozzy:  I’m sorry you have so much pressure from family to redo something! 




    What do you feel like doing most if you had no pressure at all from family?


    I know I complain a lot about my apathetic family who couldn’t even come out for a most-expenses paid vacation by ME if they saw me get married (they would cover airfaire though). They all had excuses, so that’s the 2nd time I had no family witness my wedding.  So odd to me!


    I guess I really need to be grateful for their lack of interest!  LOL


    Post # 10
    1186 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @rozzy:  So your wedding was a year ago or a month ago?  You stated both.

    If you elope or have a small wedding and then a month later you have a party, that would be an at home reception or informal open house.

    If it’s any later than that, I say skip it.

    Post # 12
    1186 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    OK, then I stand by my idea to do a party now or never.  Keep it informal.  I eloped in September with no guests and we’re not doing anything with family.  They understand it just isn’t practical in our situation.

    Post # 14
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013


    My daughter did a courthouse wedding when she was living in FL that was attended only by a friend of my SIL, my niece and me.   We had a small dinner party that evening with some of their friends.

    A year later on their 1 year anniversary, we had an anniversary party/ reception in NJ where all the relatives and her old friends could attend.  We sent out invitations inviting everyone to “a reception honoring the one year anniversary”.   I had initial reservations about doing this, but it actually turned out nicely.  A bonus was because it was an anniversary, most of the vendor services were a lot cheaper.  She didn’t do a vow renewal, just the reception. 


    Post # 16
    2551 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    we are eloping (sort of, we are legally required to have 4 witnesses so only my brother & his girl & my fi’s brother & his wife) in Mexico in July. We decided to do a very simple wedding celebration in our families home state since we live across the country. I still wanted to see and spend time with everyone but we really didn’t want to make it into a whole big to-do or expensive for us. My family suggested a potluck in a park (not everyone is bringing food, just the people that have volunteered) and we made it into a fiesta so people can feel a little more included even though they weren’t there for the ceremony…. Wording that invitation is proving to be a little more difficult than I thought! Right now it’s “Please join us for a FIESTA celebrating the marriage of BeckyS0 & FI”

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