- 6 months ago
Last two paragraphs basically sums up for TLDR:
We eloped slightly over 2 months ago and announced it on Facebook after telling our immediate families in person. Both of our extended families and all of our friends know. In those two months, his dad and dad’s Girlfriend gave us a card, a monetary gift, heirloom jewelry (she doesn’t have kids), and had us over for dinner and a surprise cake. His uncle and aunt sent us a card and a monetary gift from across the country. My aunt gave us something off of our registry. That’s gifts from 3 families and 2 cards.
We initially created a registry, because we had 5-6 friends ask us what we needed/where we were registered. None of those friends have purchased anything or even sent a card. I let my parents and sister know where we were registered (BBB, so nothing insane), so they could let anyone know who asks. My grandmother asked for my “new” address (of 6 months) and she sends cards for everything, including Easter and Valentine’s day, but hasn’t sent a card. I had two cousins ask for my address, but that was just for those photo Christmas cards. Not even signed or with a personalized note (like, “I’m excited to see you and your HUSBAND at Christmas!”). I know no one has to give a gift especially when we eloped, but when I graduated college almost all of my extended family members, parents, sister, and parents friends sent cards, if not money, and NONE of them attended my college graduation across the country.
The thought would never cross my mind to not send a card AND a gift for an elopement of a relative, especially if I just asked for their address to send them a Christmas card. I even bought a cute heart-shaped card holder/display for the wall to display whatever cards we got…but I can’t bring myself to hang it up when we’ve only received two cards. I was expecting something like only 10 cards from what would have been a 120 person wedding had we not eloped, so this feels extra pathetic.
My dad, my mom and step dad, my grandmother, my grandfather, my sister, my three step brothers, my Mother-In-Law, my sister in law, and both of our best friends have not sent a card, a gift, or even taken us out to dinner or had us over for dinner to celebrate with them. I keep waiting and waiting and I’m having a hard time believing it. Blah, blah, blah, no one owes us a gift…I feel like expecting a gift or card or something from our immediate families isn’t insane. It’s normal.
I think the lack of cards from ANYONE bothers me more than the lack of gifts from my immediate family. I don’t know how to get over how crappy my family is making me feel through their apathy. Any advice?…aside from “they don’t owe you a gift or card and eloping means you gave all of that up.” I expect my dad, mom, step dad, sister, husband, and BFF to do something for my birthday/Christmas and I know they expect the same. It’s part of being family.