(Closed) Eloped and now getting married again…

posted 10 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Not exactly.  You can have a convalidation ceremony, which is when you receive the sacrament of marriage, but it is different than a nuptual ceremony.  Talk to your priest for specific details.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

So was your first ceremony a Catholic ceremony?  If not, then as far as the church is concerned, you haven’t had the sacrament – and your "re-marriage" would actually be your first ceremony.  The church absolutely does do that.  You just need to explain to your priest that you now want a Catholic ceremony.  You will need to go through all the premarital counseling according to the policy of your church

If your first marriage was a Catholic ceremony, I have been to Catholic vow renewals.  It’s unlikely that a priest would ignore that you had a previous Catholic ceremony, but I think you could certainly find a priest to do a vow renewal.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

They will absolutely be excited to do a convalidation for you! Congratulations on preparing for the sacrament of marriage.

Just know that depending on the conservativeness of the priest and/or diocese, you will encounter differing expectations as to how lavish the wedding should be (not, mind you, whether the wedding should happen—they will absolutely want that!). Some really conservative priests/dioceses frown on full-blown, bride in huge white dress, whole nine yards weddings for convalidations. However, these are the same priests that would frown on two cohabitating people having a big wedding (I assume you’ve been living together since your elopement—their objection in both cases would be that you have been presenting yourselves as married to the community by living together, so a big wedding, which signifies the transition to life together, would not be appropriate). Regardless, it’s unlikely you will encounter too much trouble. Congratulations!

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

One question since I’m thinking of doing the same thing.  How does everyone feel about going to a religious ceremony for a couple that’s already legally married?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I wouldn’t mind at all.  I am an atheist, if it matters.  I would only have objection if the couple lied to me and said they weren’t married yet.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Good for you!  The Catholic Church will welcome you to enter into the sacrament of marriage.  After eloping, if you want a more traditional wedding, hopefully you’ll be OKed to have one in your current parish.  If the priest doesn’t, you could try another parish?  However some parishes won’t marry you unless you are a member.  If you decide to join that parish, that might make it OK.  But you might want to look at that now.  Some parishes need you to be a member for a certain period of time before they’ll marry (or convalidate).  This is only if you are that interested in having a big wedding.  Otherwise you could have it at your current church.

@hickchick – I would be fine with going to a convalidation.  If you have guests who are practicing Catholics, I’d think they’d be happy/welcoming that you wanted your marriage recognized by the Church.  For me that’s the ceremony that really means anything.  So I would personally look at it as the real marriage.  But maybe that’s just me.

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