(Closed) Elopement and Feeling Too Alone on Big Day

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Where are you eloping too? 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Would you consider having a few people you’re extremely close to there with you that you can get ready with?

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Maybe there is a Bee that might live in the area that would be willing to come over and hang out while you are getting ready and help you into your dress.  There are a ton of Cali Bees and I would bet one would love to do it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

instead of elope super small dw ?

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

if you want the ceremony to be private-

you could do like a “send off” and have the wedding in private then a reception later be it a few hours later or a few days? or not at all and just have them wish you luck and support you before?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Candies147:  I am definitely feeling you on that. I am daunted by that too, which is why I’ve put off doing any planning at all! How is your fiance feeling about it?

ETA: I’d also add that I’m sure any close friend will be honoured to be part of your day, even if it’s far away and fairly brief. Maybe an intimate meal in a private room of a nice restaurant afterwards? And maybe you could go there a day or two early and have some fund prep time with your ladies. I’m sure they’d get on even if they’d not met before. 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Candies147:  Write out a list of pros and cons of eloping.

There will always be tradeoffs no matter what you choose. You just have to figure out what your priorities are. Sure, it might be nice to get pics getting ready… but is that worth having a less nice honeymoon? People at your wedding can be good… but it’s also stressful. Etc. etc.

For us, eloping seems like the best option. Sure I am a little sad… but my family doesn’t seem to care one way or another so I know that at least we’ll have a day the way we want it… we can control it since it’ll be just us.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I thought if that too.  We eloped.  When the time came around,we were so giddy and anxious I don’t think I noticed that i didn’t have anyone there.

 

We got ready together in the same room, however I didn’t put on my gown.  Then the photographer arrived.  She got photos of him getting ready, H went down to wait for me, while we got photos me.  She helped us do our first look.

It was the photographer who zipped me up in the gown and tied my sash.  I think that was the only moment where it felt a little odd “Wow, shouldn’t my sisters have done that for me?”  So there was a trade off, but regardless we had an awesome day and trip.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We eloped and I can tell you, for me, being alone was FANTASTIC. We woke up, went to the beach, had a refreshing swim in the ocean, had a heathy breakfast, went back to the hotel room, relaxed on the balcony and read our books. We started getting ready at 3pm (showered) then the hairdresser and at 5, the photog at 5:30. Keane hung out with Thomas our photog while I hung out with Helen our makeup artist. We saw each other again at 5:45 and got married at 6 and finished our photos by 8:30pm dinner at 9pm. Probably the most chilled out and fantasticly stress-less wedding in history. Here’s some of our pics

Married !!! VERY PIC HEAVY

2 month anniversary today… lets reminisce 🙂 PICS

Then we had an at-home-reception for the loved ones

Our Reception 🙂 VERY PIC HEAVY !

Congrats on choosing to elope, we are very happy we did and although I missed mum lots leading up to our wedding, the day of was so fantastically relaxing I wouldn’t change a thing

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am worried about feeling alone too… and guilty.  Our parents are very supporting in us having a planned elopement/DW and I am so thankful for that!  However, I am afraid that I will get upset the day of since I won’t have anyone there with me – mainly my mom.  I am also afraid that I will feel guilty since FI and I are both the only child in our families.  We are wanting to get married nearly 12 hours away and there is no way that our parents could come down there, so that is out of the question.  Our Plan B is to have a small (75 people max) wedding in our hometown but the more we explore and budget that option, the more stressed I get.  We could elope and have a fabulous weeklong honeymoon for less than half the cost!  The thought makes me sick to my stomach and I am so torn on what to do… sigh.  I wish Magic 8 balls really worked, lol

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