(Closed) Elopement Announcements: Tacky or Tasteful?

posted 10 years ago in Elopement
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I think its better to send after it happens

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think I agree with  @andielovesj: on this one.  For one thing, if you send it in advance you are likely to have to field “Why can’t I come?!?” calls and emails.  For another, well I guess it just feels a little bit like rubbing their noses in it?  

I’d send them afterward either as a “Hey!  We got married!” type thing or once you have set the date for the reception worded something like “We were married in a private ceremony on xx/xx/xxxx and now we want to celebrate the start of our marriage with you!  Come help us celebrate at our reception…. blah blah blah”.  That’s probably not the best of wording, but that’s what my brain is coming up with at 4am.  lol

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with the others, it should be after the fact.  You may be asking for a headache if you do it before, and a barrage of ppl trying to talk you into a big wedding and such.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The whole idea of eloping is so as NOT to let people know that you are getting married. It is not the time to invite people to watch your wedding (even if it is posted online only.)

Please send it AFTERWARDS saying that you two are married! And post some pix or send a link to those pix for the interested parties. That’s it.

If you tell them before, some ppl might also misconstrue it as a gift grab.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t care for the change in person; you say “WE are eloping!” then talk about yourselves in the third person the rest of the way down.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think I’d just hold off to send the announcement until you’re ready to throw the reception, then do a combined announcement/invitation.  Like:

We’ve Eloped!

On November 11th, 2011 we exchanged vows in a private ceremony at sunrise.

Please join us on April 30th for a brunch reception to celebrate our marriage!

(Bruch place, address, time, or whatever)

Additional information can be found at :  kjandgigi.com

Please RSVP by March 15th

Love, Mr. and Mrs. Gigi and KJ Lastname

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would also send it afterward. 

Also, I agree with keeping the wording consistent, using either “we” or “they” but not both when talking about yourselves.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MsGigi:  I see what you’re saying about the timing.  Maybe a small save-the-date type announcement woudl work then.  But I’d keep it simple and something like :

We’ve Eloped!

On November 11th we exchanged vows during a private ceremony at sunrise.

Please save the date for Saturday May 17th (or whatever) to join us for a celebratory reception at the Four Seasons.  Formal invitation to follow.

We hope you’re able to join us!  Love, Mr. and Mrs. KJ and Gigi Lastname

 

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aw, you’re welcome!  I’m glad I could help.  There’s so much to learn about this whole process, it boggles the mind.  Congrats on your elopement 🙂

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