Post # 1
We want to elope in secret and send our family and friends announcements after it’s done.
I am wondering, would it be a better idea to do a photo postcard with a pic from the wedding, kind of like most people’s STD, or a more formal announcement?
Also, I want people to know our address when we move if they want to send us cards or gifts. Would it be tacky to put something on there like, “Please send your congratulations to blah blah blah…(address)?”
Post # 3
I think you can go either way–both are appropriate and are just a matter of taste. A picture of your wedding day is definitely nice, whether it is the actual card or inserted with a more formal announcement. I wouldn’t make the statement about offering congratulations. I would word it a little more, “following our romantic wedding and honeymoon in St. Lucia, we have settled into our new home at 123 Main St., Anywhere, USA 12345”.
Post # 4
My cousin planned her elopement to Vegas. They sent the announcements from the airport as they were leaving home, haha
They basically said
Kathryn Robertson and Michael West were married in Las Vegas Nevada on June 21, 2004.
Please join us for a celebration BBQ on August 12, 2004 at City park etc etc
They did it this way because they threw a party with family and friends present a few months after they eloped. It was a very chill park party with BBQ, family and friends.
The cards they sent did not have a photo on them, but had a pretty western background with a cactus since they got married in Las Vegas.
Post # 5
Thanks, I knew it wasn’t right in my head, but couldn’t think of how to put it!
Post # 6
Soo glad I found this topic! I have a couple of questions along the same vein…
My husband and I eloped, so to speak. Everyone knew about it, but we flew across the country and were alone. We simply did not have the money for a wedding – or attendants, or guests. That was a month ago. Now we are packing to move because I’m transferring to a new university (now you know why we have no money. lol).
My boss and coworker have decided to throw us a “reception”. It’s technically a shower, as they just want people to bring us gifts to help us out. But they’re afraid men (their husbands, for starters) won’t come if the invitations say shower on them. We really are not in a position to turn this gesture down. So, I’ve thrown together a registry & some homemade invitations.
My questions are:
Should I tone down the gift aspect by saying something to the effect of “Your presence is most important, but if you wish to bring a gift…..” and if so, how can I word it a little more casually? Should I just put the places I registered at the bottom of the invitation?
Is it too rude to request attendants 12 and up only? It is not at a family member’s home, but at my boss’s. Unfortunately, there are some rowdy, ill mannered kids in the family, as well as several infants and toddlers. I just don’t want to bring that chaos down on anyone, especially not someone who is being so gracious to us. Reading etiquette sites has worried me, even though I’m not sure wedding etiquette people live on Earth. And this isn’t a typical situation, anyway.
Sorry this was so wordy. It’s a problem I have, I know! Thanks for your help!
Post # 7
I think a photo postcard would be great, especially if you could send it from where you are eloping to. I would leave off the send the “Please send your congratulations to blah blah blah…(address)?”. If I received an announcement with that on there I would be put off by it. If they want to send you something, they will have your return address on the card you send to them.
Post # 8
@mrsv2be: You don’t put return addresses on Wedding announcements nor do you put registry information nor do you request gifts. If you don’t have a TRADITIONAL WEDDING then you opt out of all the wedding festivities such as showers, bachelorette parties, bridal luncheons, etc. Sorry! That’s just how it goes!
Post # 9
I’m not trying to be rude I understand what you are saying but AFTER a person is married then they don’t get showers unless it’s a “housewarming” shower and they are moving into their new house.
Post # 10
I don’t know a single thing about wedding etiquette but I will have to agree with firsttimebride. They way I see it, wedding gifts are the way for the guests to show they are grateful that you invited them to your wedding and paid for all this food and music and took time to do invitations and favors and stuff. If someone didn’t invite you to their birthday party, but still told you where you could pick up a birthday present for them, how would you feel?
Post # 11
I think you’d like gifts regardless. You might not get any if there isn’t some type Of celebration get together. There’s this info on wording ideas